by minimus 32 Replies latest jw friends
(huge generalization I know)
like I said..
there are a few freaks in the mix
yeah I married one one of 'em (freak), my shrink called it the "madonna / whore complex"- I called it "shitty". She was a nun (Dub wife) for me and and a cross between Pamela Anderson and Paris Hilton for the "others".
Nothing some Grey Goose can't cure...
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I think whatever your motive in dating was the congregation would invent it's own ideas about the situation. Even after your first date the gossip round the congregation would be - Gossip A: 'ooh, I wonder when they'll get married?', Gossip B: 'well I think in the autumn at the end of the service year when so-and-so has got all their pioneer hours in and they'll have a Saturday free', Gossip A: 'well he had better make it soon, remember how he messed that other girl around? He talked to her at 4 consecutive meetings and didn't propose!'
Gossip A: 'ooh, I wonder when they'll get married?'
I remember one hall I attended had an unwritten rule (but spoken and confirmed by the pharisaical elders); if a single brother and sister sat next to each other at the meetings for two or more meetings in a row, the congregation should expect an 'announcement' concerning an upcoming marriage.
I dated a sister in the hall for about two weeks and we sat next to each other for a couple of meetings. We quit dating because even though we were great friends we both realized that we weren't that romantically attracted to each other so we just decided to remain friends. But because we sat next to each other at the hall, we generated more gossip about getting married than the Brits do about Charles and Camilla.
Yep under, there is a pseudo rule in our hall that only engage ppl should sit together.
as a young JW pioneer I dated with a view toward marriage. I dated some very nice "sisters"; none of which I felt I could be married to. I dated quite a few sisters. In hindsite it was all "boring " stuff. Much like a job interview. There was no real attraction, intellectual or physical. There was no physical contact ( well, with one there was; we made out on the beach one nite and felt guilty for it. We did not date again .She later married someone else; guess he made out better).
Then, when I became wordly ; I thought as a wordly guy and dated as a worldly guy. After I had gone through therapy and had a clearer head, I actually had fun dating . It literaly lit a fuse inside me; it flipped the switch. I dated for no other reason then that there was mutual attraction and to have "fun"--without ANY view to marriage". I had FUN. I thought I was a late bloomer; getting layed at age 22.
But after that, It was a very different ball game.
ps. marriage came as a result of one of those relationships....and after 18 years I have no regrets of my marriage partner; I do not feel I missed anything.
I loved a worldy girl for four years and was good friends with her, on and off, but I never did anything naughty with her because I was afraid it would displease Jehovah. The most we did was hug on the stairs leading up to her house during the twilight. That was between the ages of 14 and 18. I told her we could not do more - it broke my heart. We left school and eventually we lost touch. I bumped into her a few months ago with her long-term boyfriend.
I met a sister at the Kingdom Hall when I was 18 and she has been my girlfriend for four years now. Some in the congregation say we have been together too long and that it is not proper for us to be together so long without getting married.
As a witness "youth" there really is no other point to dating another witness without a view to marriage. There is no other way to get laid. I remember countless dates ending in complete frustration. After getting home one night after a particularly great date I sat with my girlfriend of two months on her bed. She asked, 'so what do you want to do now?'. I had a boner the size of an assembly hall busting out of my jeans.. all I could say was ' We could play some cards or something if you want..'.
I had a boner the size of an assembly hall busting out of my jeans..
dude- I can't stop laughing..... omg!
I want to write more but I can't stop laughing!!! CHEEEESUS!
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Holy crap... I'm still laughing (to tears!)
or were you a recreational dater?
Yup. Dub chicks were NAUGHTY!! You just had to find the right ones!!!
