Also sound advice to heed before one gets slammed by the proverbial bus, Anglo-Saxon dude.
I'm surprised your spouse didn't say, "Why wait to build a new life, take on fresh interests and travel the world as much as possible...lets start now!"
You obviously dont read much of what I post! As it happens we lead a very full life and travel Europe extensively. My point was that many bereaved persons sort of fade away with grief and dont try to enjoy themselves when their partner dies, because they seem to think that rebuilding one's life as a single person is some sort of betrayal.
Unlike most dubs, I have taken care to see that the surviving mate is well provided for by means of life insurance, a few grand in the bank is never to be sneezed at.
Englishman.
..... fanaticism masquerading beneath a cloak of reasoned logic.