To My Dear Mumsy Hadenuf!

by whyamihere 27 Replies latest jw friends

  • HadEnuf
    HadEnuf

    Dearest Brookiepooh:

    You need to stop beating yourself over the head about what happened after the "wedding incident". I don't even think you were particularly mean or anything to me. I just knew that you were in turmoil over everything and the shock of seeing your mother-in-law and father-in-law, who you thought were Die-Hard-Never-Gonna-Leave-The-JW's People, deciding to say good riddance to their religion. It must have been tough for you, having just gotten married with all the stress from the crap you had to endure from two selfish and cruel congregations, and then listening to our little jabs here and there (and big jabs too) against the JW's for the many months afterwards.

    You have NO REASON to feel guilty over anything. That is all in the past and hopefully stays put. We have such a wonderful future before us free from the binds of an unloving, uncaring, cultish religion. You have a (if I do say so myself) terrific husband who loves you more than anything in the world and two of the cutest and greatest kids that I know (grandma prejudice here)! You are beautiful and loving and giving and I love you with every single fiber of my being.

    I don't want people here to get the idea that you were cruel to us because you just weren't. I did worry for a while that perhaps you would shun us and withdraw the grandchildren from us...but that NEVER happened. You had so much on your shoulders and you were strong and though it took a while...you came to the decision, ON YOUR OWN, that this religion was cruel and "talking the talk but not walking the walk".

    Thank you for such a wonderful tribute to me...I really don't deserve it (but it sure made my day). You made me cry with happiness that you care so much about me and Gary. Who knows...maybe you won't lose your mom or brothers. You never know when they might "see the light" too. But if that should ever happen you can always depend on us to love you unconditionally and with open arms.

    You and your hubbie and children are the beating of my heart.

    Mumsy

  • kls
    kls

    Ok now i need a box of kleenex,,,,,,,,,,,,aww you guys are killing me

  • Nancy Drake
    Nancy Drake

    Brooke and Cathy,

    I love you guys! Brooke, you know I will always be here for you no matter what.

    Anyone who is reading this...I want you to know that Brooke was the only friend I had that wasn't afraid to continue talking to me after I was disfellowshipped. She was pretty much the only true friend I had as a JW. She was always herself, never fake, and always let me be myself (a weirdo) around her. She has just grown so lovely and I adore her.

    Cathy, I am looking foward to getting to know again in a non dub relationship. Everybody wants you for their mumsy. See, I have no mommy anymore, and Cathy has agreed to be my honorary mumsy.

    I am so honored to have BOTH of you in my life now!

    Love, Tracy

  • HadEnuf
    HadEnuf

    Nancy...Brookie is a good, true and loyal friend.

    kls...Ahhhhh...we don't want to kill anyone. What would we do without your friendly little monkey face around here! I'd give you a banana but I'm all out. Sorry.

    Cathy L.

  • ButtLight
    ButtLight

    It just kills me to see how everyone is so caring, and loving on this board. Ok, well not everyone. Not to just family, but to newbies, and so many others. You can have friends in here after just a few posts. It amazes me.

  • Dustin
    Dustin

    Brooke and Cathy

    I think you are both wonderful people. I really feel fortunate to have been able to meet both of you.

    Brooke, you need to stop beating yourself up so much. You are a great person, and you posting this thread proves that. I'm glad I can call you my friend.

    Cathy, you are a great person. I always appreciate you cheering me up with your funny posts. You have a great sense of humor.

    Lots of love for you both

    Dustin

  • candidlynuts
    candidlynuts

    geez louise do you know how hard it is to make ME boohoo?

    kls dont bogart the kleenex .. pass em on!

    H.E. / brooke.. you are wonderful ladies and an asset to this

    forum. you both really touch others lives and this thread prooves your

    both good hearted people!

    i wish i was close to ANYONE in my family. i know they love me.

    my mom and dad are wonderful parents and dont shun me at all. but the

    rest of the family including my own daughter consider me a danger to their

    spirituality. and although they'll talk to me if I call, they dont call me or

    inquire about my life.. i call, i ask about them, they answer.. buhbye

    appreciate the blessing of having loving family in your lives

    hugs!

  • Winston Smith :>D
    Winston Smith :>D

    After doing alot of Soul searching and really doing some reading. ...

    I do not want to Shun those who love me unconditionally. I do not want to treat people bad because they think another way. That is not who I am.

    I am so angry with myself

    Brooke

    I hear you Brooke. I felt the same way. Although I left because of doctrine issues, this issue that you mention ATE at my VERY SOUL. I found myself shunning family and childhood friends. It killed me as my friends became DF'd that I was left with the option of hating them or still being their friends but then "hurting Jehovah". What a thinned skinned little bitch the WTS god can be.

    I, like you, found after deep soul searching that shunning was not in my make-up. It was evil and weighing me down to the point where i could no longer operate. Once I realized that shunning WAS NOT who I WAS, rather, it was a by-product of me trying to "do-more" and be a good JW, I felt relief!

    The guilt was finally lifted as I made my rounds to all of the people, family, & friends that i treated like complete shat and asked for their forgiveness. It filled me with hope, joy and love as I confessed my faults to them and asked for forgiveness. It was the frosting on the cake that all of them, without hesitation, granted me the peace I asked for.

    I hope you have now found such peace as well.

  • HadEnuf
    HadEnuf

    Ahhhhhhhh Dustin...you handsome hunk of a guy...thanks for those kind words. I really hope that we can get together this summer at our place for some cook-outs and some ROCK & ROLL JAM SESSIONS!!

    Cathy L.

  • bikerchic
    bikerchic

    *wipes tears from my eyes*

    Awww this is such a sweet story! I'm glad it has a happy ending at least bringing the two of you together on the "otherside". I hope it goes as well with your family Brooke, never give up hope and don't play the shun game with them.

    Hugs!

    Kate

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