I've avoided the elders so far...but could this all change on SATURDAY?

by logansrun 41 Replies latest jw friends

  • Winston Smith :>D
    Winston Smith :>D

    Have fun Bradley, it's great to show them that they can't intimidate you.

    But like everyone has said, and you are likely aware, this could easily turn into a trap and your undoing if you are not careful.

    Keep conversation light to avoid any chances of implicating yourself in their eyes.

    This bears repeating for you:

    Keep conversation light...Keep conversation light ...Keep conversation light

    Three times for emphasis [Holy, holy, holy]

    I'm sure you're going to love this,

    ...but this song laid out advice that helped me when I was covering my ass from nosy elders until I was ready to fully exit:

    INCUBUS: Blood on the Ground

    I don't wanna talk to you anymore
    I'm afraid of what I might say
    I bite my tongue every time you come around
    'Cause blood in my mouth beats blood on the ground

    Hand over my heart

    I swear I've tried everything I could
    Within all my power, 2 weeks and 1 hour
    I slaved and now I've got nothing to show

    Oh if only you've grown taller than a brick wall
    From now on gonna start holding my breath
    When you come around and you flex that fake grin
    'Cause something inside me has said more than twice
    That breathing this air beats breathing you at all

    Hand over my mouth I'm earning the right to my silence
    In quiet discerning between ego and timing
    Good judgment is once again proving to me
    That it's still worth its weight in gold

    From now on I'm gonna be so much more weary
    When you start to speak and my warm blood starts to boil
    Seeing you is like pulling teeth
    And hearing your voice is like chewing tin foil

    I'm fast to a better judgment
    By saying less today I will gain more, gain more
    No cheers to you my, my fickle friend
    You, you brought the art of silent war

    I don't wanna talk to you anymore
    I'm afraid of what I might say
    I bite my tongue every time you come around
    'Cause blood in my mouth beats blood on the ground

    Paul

  • bebu
    bebu

    If you drink 4 martinis before you go, you'll be a lousy babysitter! But then, you could smile drunkenly at the elders and make your answers so odd that they'll give up pursuing you.

    bebu

  • BrendaCloutier
    BrendaCloutier

    Bradley! I was just thinking of Emailing you to see how you're doin, and here you are. So good to "see" you again. Stick around a while, eh?

    I think your gilead-bound sister invited you for 2 reasons... 1) is it's their day to celebrate and you're family, and 2) you're the perfekt person to watch the kids because you won't be nearly as required to say anything that might embarras the party.

    DO NOT allow yourself to be dragged into a conversation about your spirituality. Expect them to do this. When it occurs; just smile at them and either walk away or tell them that this is not the time or place and change the topic of conversation. If they push it you just tell them you will not discuss it.

    And a good reason to not discuss it now is 1) Oops, there goes little Johnny, I've got to catch him, and 2) this is not the appropriate time nor place for such a discussion as it's my sister and bro-in-laws going away party. AND keep your mouth shut. (Gawd that is a hard one for me <grin>). Don't forget to give them a wrong number and false addy. Make up this "lie" in advance so yo can stick to it when asked multiple times.

    Hugs and love and luck

    Brenda

  • prophecor
    prophecor

    You've been sorely missed, Brad. Good to see you back.

  • Evesapple
    Evesapple

    Bradley so nice to hear from you!

    I'm sure it will all go well for you this Saturday, sounds like you'll be keeping busy with the kids and that's good. You got a lot of good advice, so I"m not even going to add to it.....but the 4 martinis b4 is not a bad idea.

    As long as you kind of know what to expect. No doubt someone will want to get together with you to encourage you to come back, cuz well, that's what they do....you're smart, you'll do fine....no worries......cheers!

    Keep in touch! Let us know how it all goes.

    Talk to you soon!

    Eva

    Hey Paul! Great song! Great Lyrics!

  • Balsam
    Balsam

    You Said: An ex-JW friend of mine recently informed me a very prominant pioneer-Super Dub daughter of an elder gave him a BJ after field service in their car one day (or night, hopefull night!). I was shocked for about a minute, but then the shock subsided.

    OMG that is too funny especially since they had just finished field service. . My son who was at the time 17 had a sexual episode from a daughter of an Elder who was of the same age. She was all over both him and his friend. Had sex with both of them. Lord have mercy, something sure turned on her switch for sure. LOL My sons really taught me the girls and boys of the KH are horny bunch. LOL

    Balsam

  • drwtsn32
    drwtsn32

    Hey Bradley...good to see you!

    Ugh, I can't imagine attending a JW gathering, to be honest. If it were me, I'd probably just say goodbye the day after the going away party or something. Good luck!

  • bavman
    bavman

    hey brad how are ya and cheers to you?!?

  • devinsmom
    devinsmom

    Hey Bradley, good to see you back...staying?

    Well, hope everything goes your way on Saturday, have a martini for me! But dont , hehe

    Hope school is going well, so far so good for me

    -April

  • Frog
    Frog

    Hi there Bradley, what fun it sounds you are going to have! Just be careful thought that you're not walking into some sort of an organised 'intervention' seeking to drag you back to the dark side, it would be such a shame after all the hard work you have put in to attain 'emperor status'! Seriously though, it sounds like you're ready for it, maybe it's time? Do let us know first thing though how you go, preferably while the effects of the Martini are still working their magic.

    frog xox

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