I have enjoyed reading this thread very much and I think it was a great thread topic. I don't know how I feel about staying, I just know that I am not ready to leave or if I ever will be BUT:
I was abused for 14 years. What good would it do me to go over and over aspects of it on a daily basis? There would hopefully come a point where I said, ok enough, I need to look more forward than I do backwards. It would tear me up to have to discuss the abuse, my feelings surrounding it, how I was treated, where he hit me, how often, who knew about it, why did I not tell people earlier, why I think he did it, why i think I stayed, etc etc...the topics surrounding it would be endless.
Do you know what I mean? I do understand the need for a balance between 'healing' and 'moving forward'.
Jez