Letter to my Elder Uncle

by Lehaa 17 Replies latest jw experiences

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  codeblue

  (((Leah)))

  I am so sorry to hear about how your Uncle is treating you.

  I especially like this comment you made to him:

  If this organisation is based on love, care and unity then why do I have to move around to try and find it, shouldn't it be in all the Kingdom Halls I go (BINGO)!!!

  That is exactly how I feel because of the things I have discovered and how I have been treated. One of my siblings said: "go find another KH". If you go to 4 and get the same treatment...why keep going? They obviously aren't the true religion based on the fact that their identifying mark of LOVE is not shown.

  Codeblue
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  AlmostAtheist

  It's inhuman to demand that family members shun each other. You can hear his humanity fighting with the dogma:

  I truly am very sorry you are there, and always hopeful you are strong enough to make a return to where you belong.

  He won't "talk" to you, but his humanity and love for you make him at least write something. But the something has to be an acknowledgment of your "weakness", so sad. I've never had to shun someone I loved, I don't know if I could even have done it. Being the good dub I was, probably.

  I'm sorry you're suffering with this. It is most assuredly not fair.

  Dave
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  love2Bworldly

  Sorry for the pain your uncle is putting you through. Amazing how he is on the one hand inviting you to the Memorial, but telling you he can't talk to you if you come. Very sad and shows the JW's true colors--they do not show forgiveness. Even if you were reinstated like I was once, you would be forever marked. When I was reinstated none of the people I had known for years and thought were my friends, treated me like their equal; they were 'cordial' but did not make an effort to really welcome me back or invite me for anything on a social basis. It's funny, they were so excited when I was reinstated, but like I said did not make me feel included when I came back.
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  willyloman

  Although we would be unable to talk to you, our hearts will be overjoyed to see you there.

  Hearts? What hearts?
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  LongHairGal

  Sorry your feelings got hurt but the JWs feel it is an act of unfaithfulness to god to disobey this command not to talk to a DFd person. I have people shunning me now and I am not even DFd!
  
  The way this makes me feel is: well, I understand the logic of why they do what they do, e.g. they feel you are not toeing the line so they hope to "adjust" you by not talking to you - but this does not make me want to do anything to "go back" (I don't feel I am doing anything wrong anyway). I simply don't need these people. They don't realize it but they are not missed! Please don't think this is sour grapes on my part because it is not. Absense does not make my heart grow fonder. I accept the loss.
  
  LHG
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  LongHairGal

  "Absence". Forgive me for not proof-reading.
  
  LHG
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  tetrapod.sapien

  goog for you! that was a well written letter!
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  tetrapod.sapien

  sorry, i meant: "good for you!" (hey, it doesn't hurt to say it twice! it was a good letter...)