almost instinctively we begin seeking self- assessment from others, we start measuring our self-worth on how others view us... become split minded and unconsciously seeing ourself from an alein point of view... religion does not cause this, they takes advantage of our natural tendancy in this regard...
JWs, are probably not unique in doing this, but they seem to hit it harder than others.... they are constantly presenting the ideal JW, who is supposedly modelled on Jesus...as the goal and standard of measure.... guarenteeing a feeling of some inadequacy...this causes an emotional gap...which is filled by the overwhelming forgiveness promised by the sacrifice of Jesus...for some.
but JWs are good at cracking the whip to remind the faithful that they are undeserving of this kindness and while they dont have to earn it, they will be rejected if they show that they dont appreciate it.... which always sounded suspiciously the same to me.
then they tell you that if you are truly a child of god, the motivation will arise in your heart...and that makes you feel even more guilty when it doesn't...and filled with anxiety and worry.