Are things better, worse or unchanged? Are you still associated with or are you shunned?
Has Your Family Life Changed Since You Left Jehovah's Witnesses?
by minimus 25 Replies latest jw friends
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whyamihere
My Family has been torn apart!
It has not been just my doing but it has been falling apart for the past few years. I left in the middle of it. I know it has made things worse for me then them!
Parents Divorced
Sister Divorced
Dad remarried
Sister has major health problems (kidney's) and a Son who I help take care of.
Family hates my Dad.... I love him.
On and On and On!
Brooke
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garybuss
Mine's better. The best it's ever been. I have a functioning family now.
My connection with some relatives is gone but that's turned out for the best. -
minimus
Gary, why is that better?
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love11
SOSOSOSOSOSOSOSOSOSo much better!
At first it was hard to adjust outside of the bubble, but then you see that people are just people and you start to get to know your own likes and dislikes.
I love my family so much, so much!
As a child, I wished I had a family like this.
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AlmostAtheist
Gina and I relate to each other much better now that we are on equal footing. Contrary to the Watchtower's (and the Bible's?) advice, putting one or the other up as the "head" doesn't seem to promote peace. The man is constantly torn, trying to decide if he's making a decision because he thinks it's best, or if it's because it happens to be what he wants to do. The woman is frustrated because she doesn't have any input into the final say, which is tantamount to having no say. An advisory role, rather than a true decision maker.
Less guilt and frustration and tension, so the overall spirit of our household is better. Less fighting with Zach because he won't sit still for the two-hour meetings.
Tensions with my inlaw's are higher, of course, but the immediate family situation is much, much better.
Dave
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rebel8
I was single at the time I left the dubs, so only my relationships with my siblings and mother were affected. My relationship with them was always troubled. My mother is still one of the b0rg and I've intentionally set significant limits on how much contact I have with her, because she is not healthy for me. My sibs faded years ago but are JW apologists to this day, they are more toxic than ever and I have nothing to do with them.
Yes, my family relationships have changed, but all for the better. I am much, much happier this way than when I was a dub being forced to "honor my mother" and whatever dumb quote they use to force you to keep interacting with your toxic siblings. Now I have a choice about my sanity rather than following rules that kept me in depressing, unhealthy relationships.
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garybuss
Min, My mean resentful relatives quit hanging around and you ask why is that better? lol
The problem makers are all gone. All that's left are good people and good times.
My family life . . . my whole life changed for the better since I quit associating with Jehovah's Witnesses.
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tetrapod.sapien
i am shunned by even the most liberal of good witness "friends". it doesn't surprise me, but it hurts. my close family (mom and sis), have been great and still associate with me. my dad is a hippie hermit way back in the mountains, and i haven't been able to locate him for over a year. but he is not a witness, obviously. oh and today is his 64 birthday. happy birthday dad, wherever you are...
my wife has been great even though she is staying in the borg. i have hope for her.
in-laws pretty much hate me now.
and my personal life: it has NEVER been better. loving every minute of it. so happy i am out, with no matter to what friends i have lost.
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upside/down
The problem makers are all gone. All that's left are good people and good times.
My family life . . . my whole life changed for the better since I quit associating with Jehovah's Witnesses
Couldn't agree more!
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