Although a JW, I never wanted to marry a JW (page 2)

carla

Although never a jw, I never wanted to be married to a jw. That much I knew. carla

Honesty

My ex could talk about JW stuff constantly, and she thought I was "unspiritual" because I wanted to give it a rest sometimes. Some people don't understand that there is more happening in the world than just the stupid kingdom hall.
Now I just need to find some nice young babe - a single version of Brooke - who doesn't mind eccentric old buggers like me.
Walter

Are we from the same litter Walter because it sounds like we have to be related and our ex's must have been more than 'spiritual sisters'.

If it was JW stuff she wanted to discuss it always was freaky shit like 'Soon now, Joe Hoba is going to off everyone except us and then we can live in peace with one another (like I believed that crap) and maybe Joe Hoba will let us have one of those nice mansions up on the hill (the only Mansion on the Hill I was interested in was the one Neil Young found where psychedelic music filled the air) after he destroys those Worldly People who don't deserve to live in a Pair-o-dice, anyway. 5 minutes of listening to wacky crap like that made me depressed as hell. If she had wanted to discuss real spiritual matters that would have been great but the cult had turned her into one vengeful jealous bitch who couldn't wait until Joe Hoba effed everyone except for the dubs.

I was going with a nice young 22 y.o. virgin who was alot of fun and has a great mind along with outstanding visual qualities but I think I'm too old for anyone under 30-35 which is still in the nice young babe age range.

Lehaa

Being raised a dub i knew eventually i'd marry a dub.

But I had prerequisites. He was not to be a pioneer, ms, elder, no way.

I'd been raised as an elders daughter and there was no way I wanted the same fate for my kids.

Now, now way known. No dubs allowed in my life.

DanTheMan

I used to wonder why Satan wasn't testing me with beautiful, sexy worldly women as I knew I would go down without a fight LOL. I was like, c'mon Satan, please???

Aude_Sapere

I was never interested in witness guys. Way too condescending.

Oh wait. There was one back in high school. We were best friends and he told everyone that we were going to get married. It was news to me!! Nice enough guy but last time I saw him, I was so glad that we did not hook up.

I've always been much more interested in worldly guys.

-Aude. (would still never marry or even date a JW - ick!!)

Es

I married a JW at 19 worst mistake I have ever made. I am now marrying a "worldly" guy at the end of the year. JW brothers especially I found are very scarred of commitment or just want to get married so they can experience sex. Then once your married they know you cant get a divorce easily and so they can treat you any way they want. es

TheWord

On the topic of marriage. Is it possible to stay married forever? Also some believe that God binds two together. If this is true would it not last longer than the next sexy counterpart to ruin everything?

word up

talesin

I never thought about marriage as a JW. It just wasn't in my thoughts ... seemed like something other people did, but not me. After I left, I did it as a form of escape. Was miserable. Gave it up. Now, I'm ambivolous about the whole thing --- seems like a lot of energy going into a mighty risky venture. If only there were guarantees ... hahahaha *shrug*

t

TheWord

I never thought about marriage as a JW. It just wasn't in my thoughts ... seemed like something other people did, but not me. After I left, I did it as a form of escape. Was miserable. Gave it up. Now, I'm ambivolous about the whole thing --- seems like a lot of energy going into a mighty risky venture. If only there were guarantees ... hahahaha *shrug*
t

I was always led by impure thoughts and was constantly trying to avoid a sexual relationship as a single person. I was not able to remain as chaste as I prefered, so I chose marriage. This is not always the correct remedy since a relationship is based upon love and companionship. Once the sex part gets too unromantic, so to speak, there is still the challenge of gaining a persons heart in love. What does it mean that sex was a gift from God? word up

talesin

Well, I had to realize that I could not have any of it without intimacy. Not the sex, nor the love and friendship. So I had to learn who I was, and how to share myself with others, while maintaining personal safety. It works, and I have long-term relationships that prove it. It seems to me that being able to maintain intimate relationships (the first of which would be with yourself) in a healthy fashion is the key to having a successful partnership.

Also, resilience is an important quality. Do you trust yourself to be able to deal with the consquences of a 'failed relationship'? Maybe that is the real fear. Having a broken heart really hurts, and if I never commit, then I will never have to face that kind of heartbreak, right?

Chemistry, communication, commitment, compromise - perhaps the 4 Cs of relationship?

As for sex, why not just look on it as a gift, and say 'thank you'? Enjoy it, and don't use it to hurt anyone (including yourself). It can be a most wonderful part of an intimate relationship. For some, it can be a fun experience to be shared with another as a brief encounter. Whatever!

some more random thoughts ..

t

Although a JW, I never wanted to marry a JW

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