Explorer,
I do not think you are stupid or naive. In fact, I think you are an intelligent person, and you should have more confidence in your intelligence.
You write,
I guess what one does in a case like that is just put it aside, at least I do that.
Why put it aside? Especially when we're talking about the slaughter of billions of babies and children?
I do have the answer: if there is a God, and he is omnibenevolent (God=love, as you initially stated), then the WTBTS does not understand him the least bit whatsoever.
"But the Bible says he will destroy millions, including children!" you may protest. Well, if that's your conviction, then it isn't true that God is love -- for what could possibly be loving about a God who murders children? But if God is love, then the Bible must not understand him the least bit whatsoever.
What do you think? I do think you're intelligent; I just want to see you apply that intelligence to this problem -- which doesn't mean that you have to end up agreeing with me, but that you'll explore the ramifications of each assertion you make. Thing is, all of the Witnesses I've known have not been able to engage this issue meaningfully. You might be the first, if you write back. I hope you will.
Dedalus
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