Yep, be friendly and polite, but indifferent as to her feelings for you. As Evil said, this is extremely tough. If you wear your heart on your sleeve, you seem needy, and she'll lose all respect for you. Relationships are like houses. You start with the foundation, which is FRIENDSHIP. Then you build the walls, which is RESPECT. Then the roof, PASSION. Without these three elements, it won't last. And you have to build the relationship in that order. Right now, she has no respect for you. Disconnect from your feelings for a while. Act aloof, as hard as that is. You've got to see this as a marathon, not a sprint. Buy and read the book "Love Tactics" by Tom McKnight.
im sad because...
by tsunami_rid3r 29 Replies latest jw friends
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tsunami_rid3r
when did she lose respect for me?
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doogie
seriously, you need to get laid. After hooking up with a few different girls, will you truly appreciate there are MANY, MANY fish in the sea.
amen. you won't even be thinking about her anymore.
honestly, women aren't that great (no offense ladies). they make you watch crappy tv shows that you don't want to watch and they make you go to crappy movies that you don't want to see. plus they talk contantly about stuff you don't care about. this is blessing man. (if my girlfriend reads this, i love you baby).
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GetBusyLiving
Trust me dude - find a new broad. Don't waste another second of your life moping around hoping this girl will drop her boyfriend and fall for you. You gotta know, her boyfriend is probably loving this stuff. Could be making for good pillow talk. Move on my friend.
GBL
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tsunami_rid3r
k i moved on but she always keeps talking to me. she finished singing happy birthday to me in the lunch line today and i gave her a hug. just now she instant messaged me but i told her i need to go to work.
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Sith
Knowing she still has you stokes her ego. She has no respect for you because she knows at the drop of a hat...one little gesture from her...and you'll be drooling all over her. Reverse the situation. Would you be interested in a girl that would come running when you snap your fingers. Hell no. We all need a challenge. What we can't have is what we want the most. Human nature. Learn it, live it.
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tsunami_rid3r
how should i react to her then..when she says hi to me while walking with her boyfriend? i just say hi back.
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silentWatcher
>> Would you be interested in a girl that would come running when you snap your fingers. Hell no.
Umm, depends what she looked like. And you failed to specify the length of interest :-)
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EvilForce
Just say "hey" and keep walking.
You don't have to be a prick...just be uninterested in her. Treat her like you would a younger sister.....make sense? -
tsunami_rid3r
gotcha, thats all ive been doing.