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OklaXwitness

its too late im disfellowshipped whenever i did get disfellowshipped my dad gave me my last pay check luckily i have a job application in my hand and he said that my worldly friends could take care of me, well they will mentally but i will care for myself physically i got all my bags packed i have for about a week i knew this was gonna happen when i got disassociated anyway its about 1:30 in the morning here im gonna take all my bags out to my car and im gonna leave my dad a note askin for my birth certificate social security number and car insurance papers if i have any and ill write on there before that that i love him and that i always will and im gonna leave a note for my mom too itll say somethin like i love you and i always will no matter what and that ill be bak for the rest of my stuff while they are at the meeting on tuesday anyway im kinda shookin up i was prepared but its still a big deal i mean its my family anyway i know u guys understand lol peace out

ivy

good luck okla,
It's a big step and you might have some tough times ahead. Many of us have been there. I remember it well. Know that we are here routing for you.

Black Sheep

Good luck Okla.

Keep in touch when you can. We would like to know how you get on with your new adventure.

I enjoyed getting out and away from my parents. It wasn't tough at all. It was a helluva lot of fun actually and the big bad world that my father tried to scare me with was populated with lovely people.

Cheers

Chris

Balsam

Good Luck Okla,

My 15 year old son did the same thing. He was just about to turn 16. I, his mom was already out of the witnesses and divorced from his Dad. My childrens Dad tried to force the issue but Dirk stood his ground. Was it easy, no it wasn't. But it paid off on the end. My son refused the bible study, refused anymore meeting attendence, and eventually was disfellowshipped a year later. Today at 17 he and his big brother live together and he is happy to be out of the JW doing well in school and has part time job. It is best just to let your parents know the religion is baloney, stand your ground and don't let them back you down. They will survive. Both my sons are now disfellowshipped and their Dad still talks to them and checks on them. So he adjusted just fine. Oh I'm disfellowshipped too, in fact I was the first to leave the witnesses.

Good to see young ones standing up to the pressures of the WTS and their parents who are being mislead by it.

Balsam

OklaXwitness

ok well whew alot has happened sonce my last reply my parents didnt kick me out ive been enjoying my new freedom but i havent done anything that conflicts with liek the witnesses anyway u guys told me to make a plan and well i think i have one but since im already disfellowshipped it might be too late my family was gonna do some stuff this summer like a fishing trip that i wanted to go on and etc anyway im going to try and not disfellowship myself just yet even tho i technically allready did and if they wont let me then ill just let it stand that im disfellowshipped and i dont have to do those things with my family lol anyway later on i wanna talk to jst2laws about this whole thing i was baptised when i was 14 and i dont think i was old enough to know enough to make that decision or enter into that "contract" anyway i want to try and liek i dunno get the law involved or something take it to court and say that i was a minor when the agreement contract whatever u wanna call it was made and like i dunno like make it void or whatever or something so i can just not be a brother so i cant be disfellowshipped or something i dont know im still just thinking about it but if i cant find a way to make it work ill prolly just end up being an inactive witness and if i do something that they dont liek they can disfellowship me thats my plan i wish i hadnt rushed into the whole disfellowshipping thing i had never thought of just being inactive i dunno i shoulda came up with a plan like u guys were tellin me lol but now i got one so ill be aight

Black Sheep

Hi Okla, good to see you back.

I hope your family does go fishing and I hope you go with them. It is one of my favorite pastimes.

Try to be calm when your family bring up any JW stuff. It's tough, I have trouble with that.

Keeping your voice level down will help you to stay calm, but you will have to work on it. Every time you hear yourself raise your voice, give yourself a mental slap on the wrist and lower your volume.

I wish I had been more demanding of proof when I was your age. I let my father get away with "because it's the Truth", "these people are bible scholars", "these people are spirit directed" etc. If they try this stuff on you calmly let them know that these sayings are just statements of their faith in the Watchtower and are not proof of anything. If they want you to believe something they are going to have to actually prove it.

Make it quite clear that you are not going to be bullied into believing anything.

I hope they get over their shock quickly.

Let us know how the fishing goes.

Chris

vitty

I can hardly write, Im so shocked that your parents actually kicked you out. Even if you got disfellowshipped, they didnt have too.

Reading this as it happened has really brought it home to me how distructive that cult really is. You are still so young and I believe are still in need of your family and your home.

If the public saw this story they would be shocked. This is the sort of story that needs local publicity. I know you wouldnt want this for your parents but this is why the WT org are getting away with what they do, no one knows what goes on.

Can you imagine the reaction they would have in FS if ppl knew a 16 year old had been thrown out of his house cos he didnt have the same faith as his parents.

Please keep in touch with what happens.

Ok I missed your last post that said they didnt kick you out, whew------------I was so worried.

But many have been, It will be difficult for you in the long term though.

Black Sheep

P.S.

Don't forget to give them a hug now and again.

.....even when they don't deserve it.

i told em :)

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