Jim:
This is a very hard time for you and your wife right now. You have my deepest regards and my thoughts are with you both.
The best way to avoid having the Society involved is to avoid bringing religion into the picture.
If you try to bring in elder body testimony the Society will come in and defend the elders from testifying. This does not mean the pedophile elder...just any on the body whom he may have confessed to or any testimony of other victims that was told to the elders.
An as of yet untried legal arguement has been discussed on the board recently. Namely stating that the elders are UNTRAINED clergy thus should not be held in the same category as seminary trained clergy.
If you simply want justice against the injurious assaults committed by this man, keep religion out of it and the Society will have to stay out of it too.
So too, if the stepfather was to try and coerce elders to testify on his behalf based on their private meetings, the Society could be urged to step in and prevent that as well.
My email is [email protected] if you want to discuss this further or post here.
Kismet
PS - don't be too easily sucked into the various campaigns you hear about here and at other sites. Some are well thought out...others aren't. Some are more into sensationalism. Just do whatt is best for you and your wife. That is more important at this point than anything else.