Whenever elders hear the complaint from someone that "they never get shepherded or visited by the brothers" do you know what they do when you walk away?
They look at each other and roll their eyes.
They make comments along the lines of "Great. Another one of those people."
Some will even continue on to say, "You know, I could use a little personal attention and free psycho-therapy myself."
When they talk to other elders and your name comes up ... they will say the same thing (with the same eye-rolling). Soon the whole elder body will have you unofficially marked as one of "those people". Someone unstable and needs constant maintenance. A problem.
Just thought you'd like to know. Myself, being in a half-dozen congregations and close friends and family members being elders I can honestly say this is the response 99.9% of the time.
If you felt you were getting more by joining the cult - get over it. You were misled. They are just men with problems of their own. It is the blind leading the blind. You'll both fall into the pit.
(This is the kind of literature that would be published if I was in charge of writing at the Society)
-ithinkisee