When my 2 nd daughter got married..a (ex jw) her Dad a JW and his family (JW's) were invited..they went to the older daughters wedding..but they "saw the light" when the 2nd daughter got married and refused to go! Broke her heart! Her Dad wasn't there to give her away.
A few years ago..my JW in-laws had their 50th wedding anniversary party at a rented hall.(Not Kingdom hall) Hubby and I both received invitations from the witness giving it. I called and was told it was right..I was invited..I was their daughter in law!. So I went and bought all new outfits for all of us..and a present that I though was really special.
The day before the party I received a phone call from the Sister in law (A NY JW) and she explained she had talked to an elder..(Probably her hubby) and was advised it was not a good idea to come!..I might stumble someone!..(She wasn't even giving the party)
Now I had been to my in-laws many many times before this.Had lunch or and dinner..stayed the night..many times.Helped them through surgery.. Sometimes other witnesses would even drop by and we would have lunch together! They knew all about me. They had wrote the WTBTS and requested info..and were told it was OK to associate with me.(go figure) I had even watched other witnesses animals when they went to assemblies..They even stayed at my house and I would drive them to the assembly hall down the street.
But I couldn't come with my family to the party..
I was so mad!..Hubby saw how upset I was and knew it was his evil sister's doing. So he said if she can't come neither can I. So no one in our family went. I later found out that other relatives of the Mom's were there. That had studied years ago and decided they didn't want anything to do with the religion..but I don't know if they were ever baptised.
I wanted hubby to go but he refused. His sister blamed me!..
I was the one that helped change my FIL's dressings when he was dying from bone cancer..watched him while hubby and his mom went shopping..So that hurt pretty bad..I was the one helping take care of them..his sister was in N.Y. and would only come to see them every six months. I heard a lot of people asked why we weren't there..I never heard what they were told..
Now that hurt pretty bad..I never blamed the parents..they knew nothing about it until it was all over..
But not being told by JW's about a parent dying..or a close relative getting married or operated on..that's just plain sick!...
My heart goes out to you!..
Snoozy...
