Purely anecdotal evidence? Yes!!! Happenchance? You be the judge. And yes, this even has to do with my leaving the bORG -- not that it has to.
The time was late 1977 and I had dropped my elder position, announced to my family I'd had it up to here (can you see my hand against my chin?) and I was working on a big loose end -- telling my mother. Mom, too, was a JW but in another state. We phoned each other every week but I felt I needed to tell her this sensitive announcement by way of a letter. I've still got a copy of that single-spaced, four page, heart-wrenching expository. Not a very good one by my thinking of today.
I mailed the letter and waited for our weekly phone call deciding I'd let Mom do the calling this time. That didn't happen. I then suspected she was crushed. I sensed all kinds of bad things. I thought she probably shared the letter with the elders there and they told her to begin the shunning. To this day I don't know why but the fact is, our weekly phone calls were zilch and I continued to outwait her, feeling the ball was in her court. I'd poured out my heart and soul in that letter.
It was now six months and I felt that was long enough. It was early 1978 when I decided to pick up the phone and call her. I dialed her number but it didn't ring. Is something wrong with this phone, I thought? I was about to hang up and try again when I heard Mom's voice from the other end, "Leonard?".
"Mom, is that you? Did your phone ring? Did you simply pick up the phone?"
My mother told me that her phone didn't ring, that she had called me and had the same result -- she'd heard no ring.
The fact is, admittedly unscientific, purely anecdotal -- that we both called each other simultaneously. We hadn't talked for some six months until this moment.
No, I never pressed her for a response to my letter. In those days there was no shunning of direct relatives and that was fine with me. I simply wanted to finally share that experience with someone because it sort of fit this thread.