Alright, convince me of the benefits of marriage (page 2)

greendawn

A good marriage provides a more stable emotional environment, one especially needed by growing children.

prophecor

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When it gets a little rough, JW83, take a listen to this American standard, performed by Don Henley, written by Ole' Blue Eyes himself, Francis Albert, but known mostly by the name of, Frank Sinatra.

You have someone to throw under the bus as an excuse. "Come to dinner next week?" Oh, I'd love to but my spouse has a thing that night.

Somone else to blame for making the house so dirty.

Sex every night & twice on Sundays......LOL

A legal obligation for them to listen to more of your crap. And to correct you mid-story about how you are screwing up retelling the story.

frankiespeakin

Just read every post, and so corrected mine.

frankiespeakin

I see no real benifit in the arrangement, as apposed to other arrangments such as just living together, or remaining unattached. I suppose if you could add up all the pros and cons of all the different arrangments their would be no outstanding benefits in any. Then again it all depends on the individual and who they are married to really.

Say for instance if you married a really rich person that would have its benefits, but along with these also comes disadvantages. So you have to weight them all up some how and see it they tip the scales or some how balance.

jeeves

i think it means more to stay together, unmarried. that way you're both there because you want to be, not because you have to.

everyone's getting married and subsequently divorced these days - do something different! live in sin forever!

tetrapod.sapien

A friend said to me that her marriage is more peaceful now that they both realise they don't have to be together, but they choose to be.

thats the key. there is nothing magical about a piece of paper. common law is just as good IMO.

hope you're doing better tomorrow,

cheerio,

TS

EvilForce

Here's my take on marriage. I think marriages fail when people take their spouses for granted. They assume he/she will always be there for them and do not treat each day like it could be their last day together. When we start taking each other for granted like this is when we start feeling "less than special". More like a piece of meat. A possession. Many treat the wedding day like the pinnacle of a relationship when in fact it is the starting point in one. Familarity breeds contempt. Sometimes a little mystery even in a married relationship is good. But I've only been married once and only for 5 weeks...so WTF do I know?

LOL

startingover

A 60 year old friend of mine, after having lived in an unhappy marriage too long told me what he thought the problem with marriage was.

He said that when they instituted marriage, people only lived 40 years.

prophecor

Hi Greendawn, I agree with your position...............

A good marriage provides a more stable emotional environment, one especially needed by growing children.

You have to struggle more effectively in life when you take on the life of marriage. You have a lot at stake and many who depend on you to get the job done. Add a couple of bambinos in the mix and you have a recipe for an all out crusade that must be waged in this war of the world. Your children become one of the paramount reasons why you struggle and suffer thru this life, to make it a better place for them and yourself. Stabilty demands a commitment to a source of income that helps to fuel the economy, the economy funnels more jobs to the community, on and on and on, yadayadayada...we become a usable link to the ever present circle of life. You hopefully find a place in this world were you both realize the mundane that will eventually come to all relationships, that they are full of struggle, they require extensive amounts of attention, and to stray towards the outer edges of finding some temporary comfort and perceived happiness in the arms of another will only bring you back, eventually to learning to hate many of the traits and habits of someone else. So in the words of the now infamous Rodney King, " Can't we all just get along ? " , I find a place of comfort as we grow old and senile together, having found someone willing enough to put up with my $#!+ as it is I'm willing to accept some of their individual ideosyncracies. Isn't marriage grand.

Alright, convince me of the benefits of marriage

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