Just Joking. I don;t know how you could go out in the field service you must be married or have family member that you don't want to hurt. It hard to take the lead but you have to if you want to keep beign a Jw brother. I did but I won't any longerit bull shit the way we have been taught to treat the sisters.
What's your view on my "Being the Brother" issue that came up today?
by soundbox_guy 30 Replies latest jw friends
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doofdaddy
Maybe next time you could say "Have you considered smoking marijuana for your stress and small minded attitude?"
Sorry couldn't help it!
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tetrapod.sapien
I'm in field service today
dude! what are you still doing that crap for?
that there's your whole problem!
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soundbox_guy
Well right now in order to live my double life and still be able to spend time with my mother who is divorced and never remarried and isn't in the best of financial situations and appears to feel depressed and alone sometimes, I gotta keep up some sort of look that I'm trying to do right. I don't study anymore or anything, and most of the time when I go in field service, I find myself purposely sabotaging my presentations just so the householder can say they're not interested and I can leave. If I were just looking out for myself, I'd be doing nothing but doing things that further my art career and spending time with people I can have a good laugh with. But at the same time, if it weren't for me, my mother's youngest son, she'd wouldn't get to do a lot of the things she gets to do now. I pay for her to see a lot of the movies I see as well as other things. I wish I could be some big macho guy and just laugh everything off and say "Yeah, I'm making my own self happy now, forget those Dubs", but right now me not being the richest guy there is and being one of the only people that can provide some sort of fun to my mother's life, I guess this is just the price I'll have to pay for living a double life right now. Life's not easy and I know one day I'll have to make a definite choice as to which road I want to take, but right now I just care too much for other people.
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XBEHERE
But the rules are if a qualified brother is present; a sister is being presumptuous if she organizes the field service group
The key is qualified brother. What qualifies a brother in JWism? Having a penis is the one and only basic requirement. Its quite obvious, at least to me, that sisters are a lot better at organizing things in general anyway and you would think that this should be the definition of "qualified". Well it isn't in this cult. These sisters know this so they were trying to do what they know they can, while at the same time trying not to break Jehovah's (grumpy old men in Brooklyn's) laws. Its all a sham I tell ya!!
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Nathan Natas
I get this speech from someone about how I should just be "The Brother" and tell them what to do. I think this is stupid because it wasn't really a big deal to me, it was just picking a block to work in first. I mean I have much bigger issues to deal with on my job, stuff like that is meaningless to me. After they tell me this stuff, I actually start quoting some of the words I've seen people use in the forums by saying that "I'm not into the whole dictatorship thing, and that I'm okay with leaving things open to people." So what do you guys think,
I think you should "be the brother" and say, "OK, I'll BE THE BROTHER - YOU - SHUT UP. We're doing this MY way."
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fleaman uk
Soundbox Guy
You come across as a very decent Bloke
It must be very hard for you...but you are entitled to the life you want to lead too you know.
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Mecurious?
I think you should "be the brother" and say, "OK, I'll BE THE BROTHER - YOU - SHUT UP. We're doing this MY way."
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mad max
Hi, do what your Spirit tells you, but remember that if you are a JW then you will not have the Christ in you (hope this is not too harsh) because if you did you will not be telling other people what the org. believes. But your time is not yet, God will call you and when he does wow then you won't be able to stop. If feel strongley what Jeffacake said "to tell the ones who I taught and became a JW, that it was all liars. Yes I will do it.
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Odrade
The sisters are probably exhausted and burnt out from telling themselves what to do every day in service. They probably have to make all the decisions 90% of the time and they are discouraged and tired. Having a brother in the cargroup that they can have make all the petty mind-numbing decisions for them is a welcome relief, especially since I would be willing to bet that most of the time the brothers all go together in one cargroup and leave the sisters to fend for themselves. Your not making any decisions must have been very frustrating to them.
Show a little compassion for the workhorses of the service and take the reins next time you are asked. Ignore the snotty ones, and be the leader. Trust me, you will be providing a little tiny respite for the poor sisters who feel like they have to continue shouldering the responsibility in the ministry to please their vindictive god.