by jeanniebeanz 26 Replies latest jw friends
Here's a nice little side benefit of being raised a JW then leaving; having to search the obituaries of the local paper once a month hoping that your dad's name does not turn up.
It's doubtful that any of my "family" would even let me know, so, I know it's morbid, but I look in the local paper each month and hope that I don't see his name...
J
It's doubtful that any of my "family" would even let me know, so, I know it's morbid, but I look in the local paper each month and hope that I don't see his name...J
Your JW family sounds as harsh as mine.
Its sooo sad isnt it? So pathetic es
If that's how they treat you then they should be dead to you and "let the dead bury their own dead" and wait in vain for Armageddon and to reunite with their loved ones.
(((Jeanne)))
I do the same thing a couple times a week. My dad's health is bad. I figure I won't be mentioned in the obituary, either.
I feel bad for you. I know exactly how you feel. I periodically search the social security death records to see who has died, and found that my father had died about 3 years previous to me finding out about it on the internet, and just a few months ago found out that my Grandfather had died. My mother would not even call to tell me. It is tragic that we have to search to see who has died and who is still alive, all because of a twisted cult.
Sending you a big hug......
Yeah same. I found out my brother had had a number of strokes through work friends. I finally ran into him in the street, he looks like an old man. I could see the hollow fear of death in his eyes despite his "faith". Could be dead now for all I know... Weird
I hear ya Jeannie! Since I've been "surprised" at the deaths of two grandmothers and my mother (after the fact) I scan the obits daily for MY father too as he was recently put into a health care facility.
When I first got the PC and had gotten a dear cousin's email addy, I asked about her dad, AND another favorite uncle in NM, and I was then told they both had died. I felt so crummy! She figured that I knew, but I explained that NOBODY cared whether I knew or not. (from my immediate family)
I guess she knew I was sincere when I ended up calling her and broke down in tears out of sheer frustration over the whole thing. Actually, it goes to prove what insensitive and selfish jerks they are for doing this.
((((Jeannie))))
Annie
http://ssdi.rootsweb.com/?o_xid=0028727949&o_lid=0028727949
In case you miss it, here is the Social Security Death Index.
Probably not listed soon enough to go to the funeral though.
Blondie
