I started dating a non-jw in May. I stopped going to meetings in September. I moved in with my then JW friend (who was also dating and had just gotten engaged to a non-JW). I was going to fade, b/c I knew it wasn't right to keep going and be dating a non-jw. My friend's elders started bothering her (i think mostly b/c unfortunately her mother lived the street behind us). No one had tried to contact me. Until she met with hers, and they asked about me, and big dummy she was said "Yes, her boyfriend spends the night here, but anything else you'll have to talk to her." So then of course mine started bothering me, I ducked them for a few months, finally met with them (cause they didn't want to df me without talking to me), they listened to nothing I said, told me I could avoid the DF'ing if I dumped my boyfriend (so I asked, if he was a witness, would i have to dump him? they said no, b/c there would be less of a chance of something happening again, whereas with a non-believer, there was a greater chance of something happening- I didn't think that was right). One of the elders was actually very rude and belligerent (of course, i had always disliked him), and he made some comment about how one of my old friends who no longer went was "crazy." I told him i didn't think her mother would like his comment. So they DF'ed me for sleeping with my boyfriend. So I actually did deserve it- but I had tried so hard to just slide away, and they just had to chase me around for months- minus my roommate (who was doing the exact same thing!), I had no contact with any witnesses- I just wanted to be left alone. But no.