JW blackmailing (page 2)

damselfly

But if you do have a friend she could marry, let me know, because the alimony is killing me (and yet, it's worth every penny). Giggling and snorting over here!

After I was first D/F one of the sisters in the KH would come thru my checkout line and while careful avoiding eye contact with me chat the entire time about how much my mom missed me and how how much pain everybody was in over me leaving. The thing is I didn't leave! you all kicked me out! What about my pain & me missing everyone?

Blackmail sucks and doesn't work on me.

Odrade

My best friend got baptized at 18 when her father told her if she didn't get baptized he would feel compelled to "step down" from being an elder. She felt guilty and got baptized.

Momofmany

Can you recall instances where your jw family or friends tried to blackmail you in one way or other to stay in the witchtower after you decided to leave it?
Yeah they kept saying that I would never see my grandmother again if i didnt stay a JW...they also told me that I was going to die if I didnt go to the meetings...if that isnt blackmail I dont know what is.

I was told, my daughter would never be resurected, and I not only condemed myself to death, but all of my children. Even if I don't want to live forever, how could I choose to kill my children.

mrsjones5

My mother used to try to embarass me in front of jw family or friends to get me to come back to the hall. The last time she pulled this I had gone with her to the Sunday meeting. Mother said she knew a young sister who could study with me. Apparently she had spoken to this sister before about this. I told Mother that I wasnt interested, but after the meeting Mother brings the young sister up to me, introduces her and says wouldnt it be nice if we started a study. I looked Mother dead in the face and said "No!" Boy was she pissed and the young sister was quite embarassed.

Josie

greendawn

So the borg really knows how to program the dubs to turn even against their families I liked all experiences but that of Elsewhere epitomises the WTS policies: four generations of his family threatened to write him off.

Honesty

Can you recall instances where your jw family or friends tried to blackmail you in one way or other to stay in the witchtower after you decided to leave it?

The ex's exact words, "You are a danger to my and my children's spirituality." The stupid woman was upset that I was comparing the WT doctrines with the Bible and the pieces didn't fit together. Problem with that type of reasoning is the JW spirituality is from the demons and not God.

blondie

I was told that I would die at Armageddon unless I came back to the KH.

I just said I would rather die at Armageddon than live forever on earth under the WTS direction.

The elders

http://www.angelfire.com/biz/BPD/blackmail.html http://www.angelfire.com/vt/rcwn/Pagefifteen.html Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward , Donna Frazier http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060928972/ref=pd_sxp_f/103-2081549-3732642?v=glance&s=books Emotional Blackmailers:

Threaten to make things difficult if you don't do what they want.

Constantly threaten to end the relationship if you don't give in.

Regularly ignore or discount your feelings and wants.

Tell you or imply that they will neglect, hurt themselves, or become depressed if you don't do what they want.

Shower you with approval when you give into them and take it away when you don't.

Use money as a weapon to get their own way.

When they say:	Then you say:
If you don't take care of me, I'll wind up in the hospital/on the street/unable to work. * You'll never see your kids again. * You'll destroy this family. * You're not my child anymore. * I'm cutting you out of my will. * I'll get sick. * I can't make it without you. * I'll make you suffer. * You'll be sorry.	* That's your choice. * I hope you won't do that, but I've made my decision. * I know you're very angry right now. When you've had a chance to think about this, maybe you'll change your mind. * Why don't we talk about this again when you're less upset. * Threats/suffering/tears aren't going to work anymore. * I'm sorry you're upset.

bennyk

At a JW funeral at which a number of DF'd/DA'd individuals were present the speaker made the statement that "those of you who are not right with Jehovah will have to return to God's Organization -- or you'll NEVER see [name deleted] AGAIN!!!"

What the ruddy rot?!?! The WTS is now holding our dead loved ones HOSTAGE?!?!

greendawn

And they are cocksure that they will see the dead getting resurrected! It shows how conceited and out of touch with reality they are. No chance.

Rabbit

A few days ago at a family reunion, I was reminded ad nauseum "What will your Mother & Grandmother say when they look around for you...after they are resurrected...and...and...you aren't there ?? Can you say "guilt trip ??"

I know they mean well, I know how they believe and I know they are doing it out of their heart. That doesn't change the fact, in my mind, that they are hopelessly blinded.

I also got the old adage, "You know it's down to just a few years...you know that don't you ???" I just shrugged my shoulders.

*sheesh*

I wanted to say, "My Mother would probably be looking around for her OTHER kids and relatives, too. What would she think about the rest of her family, indeed the rest of the world being 'gone', murdered by her loving God...Jehovah ?"

For the time being I must stay off the JW radar, so I planted some seeds, voiced some objections, let them know how happy I am and gave them no weapons to harm me with. (you know...the things they are compelled to do out of love...turn ya' in for spiritual help ? )

Rabbit

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