My Vacation with JW Relatives

by Nosferatu 13 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Nosferatu

  Hey all. I promised I'd tell you about my holidays visiting my non-JW brother and his JW family.

  The first thing I noticed when we arrived was a whiteboard stuck to the fridge. It seems the rest of the family decided to follow the Family Schedule found in the TMS. I looked it over and all there was on the board was school, homework, study, and meetings. There was no mention of recreation on it. I asked my brother about it and he said, "They don't even follow that fvvving bullshit." Not only is my brother cool, but he was right. The schedule didn't even get looked at.

  All throughout my stay, I was surrounded by JW literature. It was everywhere, including the room we slept in.

  We arrived while the convention was on. Now, I really don't want to see my niece and nephew stick to this religion, so I made it a goal to show them the exit door, but not tell them that it was the exit door. On Sunday when they got home, I asked my niece, "So, how was the drama about Timothy?" She asked, "How did you know?" I simply replied, "The Internet." Hopefully that sticks in her mind.

  One comment that my nephew made to us was, "I have this disease called ADD, and I'll have it until Paradise..." You know how sick I felt? Not just because of what he said, but because I couldn't do a damn thing about it.

  All throughout my stay, I was browsing JWD. My nephew seemed interested, and I read one post here about a child with ADD who had their spirits broken (sorry, can't remember who wrote it). I'm hoping that my mentioning the internet and being on it will help them do some research themselves when they're finally allowed to use the net.

  As for my sister-in-law, she's run into problems. Her mother turned her in for smoking and got put on reproof. She also got councelled about going to a sex toy party. She said, "It's none of the elders' damn business what I do with my sex life!"

  One rule my brother has in his house is that NO JW CRAP will be discussed in front of him. When they all went to study the Watchtower, they went downstairs and closed the door.

  All in all, I had a good time, but it was those little things that really brought me down. I hope, just hope, that my niece and nephew will become curious about what's on the internet and look it up themselves someday.
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  TheListener

  
  Thanks for sharing.

  You never know what seeds were planted.

  If your sister in law is smoking and going to sex toy parties I can't believe they put the schedule on the fridge. That's harsh! That schedule is b@ll breaking.

  It sounds as if your SIL is in it for acceptance (perhaps by her family?) and association. That'll stop if she doesn't quit smoking and using toys.

  Good luck with your niece and nephew.
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  outnfree

  Sounds like you played it just right, Nos! Good for you!
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  kls

  You did good Nos and who knows ,a few hints could be all it takes and let's hope.
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  AK - Jeff

  Looks like they are mentally 'out' already. SIL comments and actions look like she is fighting against such control to me. With your Brother a non-jw that might help. Encourage him to use the sex toys with his wife regularly. That might help her ...er...come...er.... out more quickly! LOL

  Your seeds might sprout with the kids - but if she leads the way out before they are grown that is better yet.

  Jeff
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  sweet tee

  Ya done good nos! Believe me, your neice and nephew already know that you are cooler than any dub at the KH. The seeds have been planted. According to Hibiscus you will definately reap what you sow .
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  blondie

  a whiteboard stuck to the fridge. It seems the rest of the family decided to follow the Family Schedule found in the TMS. I looked it over and all there was on the board was school, homework, study, and meetings. There was no mention of recreation on it. I asked my brother about it and he said, "They don't even follow that fvvving bullshit." Not only is my brother cool, but he was right. The schedule didn't even get looked at.

  I know other JWs that do things like this to give an appearance of righteousness.

  Sounds like they are JWs on the edge. Good for him controlling the conversation around him.

  Blondie
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  greendawn

  If she said it's none of the elder's business what I do with my sex life it appears that she is fed up with the way the borg controls their lives and may soon decide to leave, sad though about the kid that hopes for paradise to come soon to heal his condition.
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  Dragonlady76

  All throughout my stay, I was browsing JWD. My nephew seemed interested, and I read one post here about a child with ADD who had their spirits broken

  I had ADD now and as a child, I hated going to meetings, I couldn't sit still and my mom punched and pinched me whenever I would get to restless during the meetings. I can't imagine now, knowing what I know how anybody with ADD deals with so many meetings without going nuts.

  Poor kid needs meds, not a story on paradise perfection.

  DL76
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  ithinkisee

  All throughout my stay, I was surrounded by JW literature. It was everywhere, including the room we slept in.

  You know ... just a couple of weeks ago, I began to realize that this damn literature is EVERYWHERE in our house. Every available shelf space. In the movie shelf are the DVDs and VCR tapes. In our bookshelves are the books ... and scattered around the house - in the bathroom, in the office, in the front room, on every end table, the calendar on the fridge.

  It is an almost suffocating presence ... no doubt this is not by accident.

  -ithinkisee