Reasons to make you leave a spouse/partner

greendawn

What would it take for you to break up a relationship with someone you really love? Would it be physical abuse, refusing to go out and work, abuse of child, or whatever else?

It took the loss of her love, combined with 24hr/day stress from continuous looks of distain, silent treatments, total lack of affection, etc. When it came to the point that my health was breaking, and some timeous observations (about my health) from some true friends, it was finally time to let go.

Grieving took a while, but the end result is 180* of a difference. I should get closure later this year, when I can sue for divorce (after the 2 year separation expires - assuming she doesn't contest).

It helped radically revise my opinion of relationships. I applaud folks in committed relationships, however I would never now encourage a couple to stay together "for the sake of it".

tijkmo

I would never now encourage a couple to stay together "for the sake of it".

im feeling ya..

hope you get closure..buddy

3 years gone...2 still to go for me

(of course falling im love with someone else and not being allowed to see her didnt help)

bygones

PaulJ

I had all manner of abuse- mental, emotional and physical. I had to leave cos I was heading for another nervous breakdown.

I did stay a lot longer "for the sake of the kids" before i realised that the kids could be better off in a scenario where I could actually spend quality time with them.

I still remember how hurt I was when I left. Kills me thinking about it.

Doubtfully Yours

Adultery.
Physical/verbal abuse.
Alcohol/drug/food/children abuse.
Refusing to contribute financially.

These are the qualities that stand out the most and for which I would divorce my husband immediately.

DY

MerryMagdalene

Well, I guess, for me, although it might have been healthier to make a break sooner, I couldn't quite do it until the love I felt was stone cold dead from the ongoing confirmation that myself and my daughter came last on the priority list and, even though asked more than once, he refused to get treatment for his alcoholism and depression. I'm still stuck closer than I would like to be, for financial reasons, but working towards independence.

~Merry

LongHairGal

Any one of those three reasons would be enough to make me leave someone. But I cannot speak for anybody else.

Some women will put up with anything to have a man. Some have even turned a blind eye to their own child being abused. Sad.

sweet tee

Lack of gainful employement

Abuse

Infidelity

Staying for the sake of the children - NO! Children are better off in a stable loving environment with one parent than a marriage that is filled with strife, distrust, depression, mental/verbal/phisical abuse etc.

hillbilly

Lie to me or steal from me and you're history.

I put up with enough of the stuff Little Toe speaks of with my JW bride..for the last 5 of 17 years it was brutal. I don't think I would tolerate being treated like that again.

~Hill

G Money

Food abuse and not getting a job? Surely you are ONLY talking about the husband as the wife may have a medical condition and that would be unloving.