Call from Mother..

by mrsjones5 11 Replies latest jw experiences

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  mrsjones5

  
  Mother called me last night.

  Yeah she's talking to me and my sister now. I dont know how mother and my sister patched it up. I plan to ask my sister when I see her next week.

  Mother called to tell me that my brother hadnt sent a package to her that I had to sent to my brother who she is not speaking too (I know rather complicated and silly actually )....anywhoo Mother was also calling to give me details about a family reunion (on my father's side) that she attended last weekend.

  Not much to tell really other than a few nuggets.

  One was that a cousin had been df'd and had been reinstated and another was that another cousin asked about me and Mother told her she should call me (said cousin is a jw also ).

  Mother closed the conversation by saying "wouldnt it be nice if you came next year?"

  Josie
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  love2Bworldly

  So when's the last time you talked to her?
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  greendawn

  It's nice that she now decided to talk with you despite the admonotions of the FDS to shun ex jws.
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  mrsjones5

  Oh she's been speaking to me for the last few weeks. I think the catalysis came about when my sister started talking to my mother. Mother has told me some of what was said. I havent asked my sister anything about it, but I think Sis has somewhat forgiven Mother. I still think Mother is a loon, but I wont broach the subject of her misbehavior in Dallas even though she still thinks she did nothing wrong. Saturday after the Mary Kay convention I'm going to spend a night at my sister's and we might have a nice chat about it.

  Oh yeah, I'm not officially an exjw (as my mother likes to point out) never got baptised so I'm somewhat safe to talk to.

  Josie
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  prophecor

  Nice to know you can't infect her, then.

  This religion sucks pond water
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  mrsjones5

  I'm going to call my brother today. If I reach him I will tell him to take his time on sending the package. I'll let him know that Mother has called me to call him about said package. I know he will send it eventually. Then I will call my Mother and let her know that she needs to call my brother about the package. W're all adults and I'm not going to play go-between just because she doesnt have the balls to speak to my brother. And I know the other reason why she isnt speaking to my brother is she thinks she's punishing him in some way. Control control control

  Josie
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  prophecor

  This is the insanity of the religion. I could never fathom not being able to havr relations with my own parents or vice versa, no matter what any scripture said, your parents are at the very least, your life line, your reason for your connection to the world. I'm glad that out of my family, I was the only one, foolish enough to take any of this religion to heart.

  Mrs Jones, you have my deepest heartfelt sympathy. Eventhough my relations with my mother are strained and guilt ridden from time to time, It would near to destroy me as a person would I not be allowed to talk to her or she me. This is absolute foolishness.

  Arthur
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  katiekitten

  Prophecor you know damn well you cant have relations with your own parents.

  Its called incest!
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  mrsjones5

  Thank you Arthur.

  Katie you're such a nut, I can always count on you for a good giggle.

  Ok Update time:

  My mother called about 2 weeks ago (after my last post on the subject) and we were chatting. Mother says "Your sister is talking to me now but she hasn't apologized yet." I told Mother not to expect an apology since Suzie believes and knows she did nothing wrong. What did I say that for? Big fight ensued. OK I let that slip because I really hadn't said anything to Mother about the situation between Mother and my Sister and since I hadn't said anything to Mother assumed I agreed with her (which I do not) and I was tired of listening to Mother lie about what my Sister supposedly did to her while Sister was laying in her hospital bed after losing her baby daughter, in pain, with dangerously high blood pressure and minimal eyesight.

  I also told Mother that if she was expecting my Brother to call or to be waiting by the phone for her call and forgiveness for whatever he supposedly did - dont bother, my Brother told me he's not playing Mother's games anymore and she can stew in her own juices. If Mother doesnt call my Brother that's fine with him.

  There is more to this especially about my Mother and Sister and what my Mother said recently at a family reunion about what my Sister supposedly did (big mess) so now Mother is not talking to any of us again. But really it's more like we're not talking to her.

  And the reason why my Sister was talking to Mother was that was all she was willing to give her. Sis hadn't forgiven Mother but she did want to get along for the sake of our family and our Father...but as it stands now that's been shot to hell.

  And I don't blame myself, my Sister, or my Brother one bit. You know who I blame.

  Josie
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  jgnat

  Well, this sounds healthier.

  One thing I think the whole family has to stop is the he-said, she-said, I'm-not-talking-to-that-one BS. It was OK to tell your mom not to hold her breath waiting for an apology. But the rest of it, maaaan. It's got to stop.

  Don't play messenger girl for ANY of your family.

  Tell your mom how it is. The next time she gives a comment about ANY of your siblings, tell her it's none of your business and if she is serious, she has to talk to them herself. No more messenger girl.

  If any of your siblings try and send a message to mom through your, tell them it's none of your business and if they are serious, they can talk to her or mail her their feelings themselves. No more messenger girl.

  I am glad you spoke your mind to your mom about what you think of the whole thing. No apologies required there.

  I am not a doctor, but it has GOT to be supremely unhealthy to transmit other people's feelings. Besides the fact that they will get garbled in transmission.