Jgnat, thanks for the response, you are always the voice of reason...I like that. Your suggestion to stop Mother from talking about my siblings to me is so on the money.
Quite frankly bro and sis dont need or use me as a messenger. They have always been quite capable of voicing their opinions to my mother (which she doesnt like). Mother likes to play us against each other and I often wonder why she does it since it never works and often backfires in her face.
I dont know how this will end, neither I nor my siblilings are shunning or actively avoiding her, we're just not pursuing or calling her. I dont even want to talk about what happened with my mother anymore and I dont think she will ever admit she was wrong. But I think her thinking that my sister has to apologize is the sickest part.
Josie