SHOW SOME EMOTION

by tijkmo 21 Replies latest social relationships

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  tijkmo

  
  i was thinking today the showing emotion is frowned upon by jws

  you cant be angry..about anything..because you arent cultivating the fruit of the spirit

  you cant be bitter..because you should be forgiving

  you cant be depressed because you arent praying enough

  you cant be disillusioned because thats apostacy

  you cant be anxious because you dont believe the end is near

  you cant be elated about anything because you are drawing too much attention to yourself and might stumble somebody

  and you definately cant be in love with some one you shouldnt...'unbeliever', same sex, not your spouse..even if you do nothing about it because that is lacking in faith..not waiting on jah..adultery in the heart..or just plain perverted

  and yet in almost all of these situations a little bit of understanding would have been all that was required...but jws dont know what to do with someone who shows emotion..they just cant handle it and so they run away..leaving the stressed individual to work it out by themselves...condemnation rather than concern

  no stiff upper lip, no suffering in silence, i want all my emotions and feelings to show...... i'm hurting inside and i want you to know it, i will survive yes i will but i want you to know.....

  tijkmo
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  LittleToe

  (((hugs)))
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  misanthropic

  Yeah I understand that is why I over react at every given opportunity. Just show your emotions and never be afraid thats how I feel, who cares if no one else appreciates or understands? Keeping your own sanity in life is what matters most......
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  kls

  Tijkmo , i have been trying to get my husband to show emotions besides anger which he is great at.
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  love2Bworldly

  I'm starting to think that was why I felt comfortable with the JWs in my teen years. My parents were not JWs, and my dad spent all his time dictating to me and my siblings how we were supposed to feel--downgrading us all the time, making fun of us if we were upset, telling us we shouldn't be unhappy or upset; similar to the JWs in a way--I remember losing my brother when I was a teenager and some of my JW friends couldn't figure out why I was crying because after all he would be resurrected, I couldn't figure out why they weren't more sympathetic toward me in my grief.
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  HappyDad

  
  Tij,

  That is why we were and they are........cookie cutter robots. No emotion, no nothing!

  But I am sure deep down that they.......as we NOW know.........that emotions are a part of us.

  As JW's, we could not/would not show them.............now we do........and many times very heavy now that we can.

  As a 58 year old one time tough guy (before JWism) but still big, would rather have my true feelings shown even if it means sobbing my heart out to those who understand. I am no longer ashamed to show anger, happiness, sarcasm (in a nice way) or any other emotion.

  I feel that I have been set free in many many ways, and hope others on this forum can achieve their own happiness.

  HappyDad
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  BrendaCloutier

  Oh yeah. I know exactly what y'all mean.

  I was not allowed the word "no" growing up. I was required to subject myself to authority...any authority. Anger? Was not allowed. Period. "Everything I said and did reflected on my (elder) dad."

  It's no wonder I was a ripe target for domestic violence, date rape, and depression.
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  BrendaCloutier

  (((( Tij ))))

  Hugs are good for the soul
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  BrendaCloutier

  Oh yeah. Overwhelm is an emotion, and I no longer have to Know It All or be Right All The Time.
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  talesin

  Yes, tij, it accounts for a lot of the depression in the congos, in my opinion. It's really destructive to stuff down our emotions.

  Let it out!!! Cry, storm, howl at the moon ... whatever works for you! That's what I say.

  t