My Pity Party is over (page 3)

Frannie Banannie

Frannie, you've never made a negative remark about anyone. Have you got a doctor's medical report about your disability? If you do, take it with you when you apply for disability. Take whatever supporting documents you have to confirm your condition.

Be patient and polite when you meet with these bureacrats because some of them think the money is coming out of their own pockets. I wish you the best, I have my hopes up for you. The best and take care.

LOL! Sure I have, Golf. But they're usually to someone's face cause I'm too ballsy. I'm often lettin my alligator mouf overload my humminbig behind. You've just missed 'em. That's a really terrific idea about getting the "Other Opinion" first. I'll go to UTMB's orthopedic/neurology dept. in Galveston. They won't be able to withstand a teaching medical university's stand on my condition. Besides UTMB has my MRI's from 9 yrs back.

I know those bureaucrats do. Also the docs they pay to give a bogus anti-opinion. I'll take my daughter with me when I go to be examined by their docs and meet with those bureaucrats. She is really gooooood at getting down to the nitty gritty and laying out the gist of their problems.

Thank you so much for your well wishes, Golf. I wish you the best, too!

Frannie

Sunspot

Dearest Frannie,

Isn't this just like you! Going through a terrible rough patch emotionally and physically, venting a bit when you are having trouble dealing with it----and now apologizing for being human!

We ALL love you, and have for a long time (some of us) and we all knew that you were melting under the pressures dumped on you---and we ALL tend to do! You ARE one special, gutsy, and extremely warmhearted person who thinks that she isn't allowed any leeway for being human! You NEEDED to get to that point (the last few days) to arrive at this one today. Now you can pick up and go on to face the next challenge and be able to dig down even more to "give-it-to-'em" even better than you could a few days ago! Right?

I'm so glad that your daughter is strong in that way too, she will certainly be a helper and an asset for you as you travel through the red tape facing you. I KNOW that you have what it takes to get what you already deserve and having an ally with you will make you even stronger.

I am tickled to see that you are feeling better about yourself, and that you've come back feisty and fighting those that need to be fought! I was very concerned (and a more than bit scared) for you when I went to bed last night. What a nice surprise to see this thread when I logged on this morning. I couldn't be happier!

I've wanted to come down there to TX and find SOME way to be there to try and comfort you, or find something brilliant to say to ease the pain. All I could do though, was reach down and try to soothe you with words, which quite often go overlooked when I have been "down". They just don't register in a brain that's on overload and they never seem to drift down to the heart----where they are apt to do the most good!

You have admitted that you've lost four sweet souls in death, folks that you had been very close to, shared their lives and secrets with, and when they were gone--- you had to rise above all these emotions and continue marching forward. No wonder you felt so much pain! Even with old hardened and dried caretakers that many experiences in that short amount of time---would send them over the edge! So yes, it's time to now think of yourself and care for YOU! It's not selfish---it's self preservation, and you are long overdue.

Take good care of my friend Noel.......you are the best qualified to do that for me!

love and hugs always....

Annie

shera

I have never taken anything you posted as lashing out Frannie,I have always taken you as a sweet,kind lady.

Take a rest that you rightfully deserve! you need some Frannie time!

***hugs***

P.S-and don't you feel guilty!

outnfree

(((((Frannie))))))

Sounds like Annie hit the nail on the head. You are apologizing for being human, and it's totally unneccessary!

Good luck with the SSD! My brother had a tough case, but was granted 100% disability and a lump sum award not too long ago. So there is hope! You are right that having a doctor and/or mental health professional with you at the hearing will be a bonus.

Also, I wanted to express that reading your posts almost ALWAYS give me a great lift! You have a great sense of humor and your caring and helpful attitude infuse your written material and obviously inform your very life. Thanks for that.

Sincerely,

outnfree

Billygoat

(((((Frannie)))))))

I didn't think you were having a pity party either...just sharing your heart. And what good are friends if you can't share your heart with them? Like LE said, sometimes you just have to take a break. Which is what I think I need too. That "empathy" thread is just off limits to me now, as is any other abuse thread for the time being. It just was too emotional for me to argue on that subject with friends. All is well now, but I NEED FLUFF!

(((((Lyin')))))

You are a dearheart! Thank you for having my back the other day. It's nice and I really appreciate it. Like I said above, all is well, but I appreciate a friend being the voice of reason when I couldn't seem to keep it together.

Love ya both,

Andi

Frannie Banannie

You gals are fandangtastic! How much to keep yall on retainer?

Megahugaroonies to yall!

Frannie

minimus

Frannie Banannie

Oh, Mini, yer so sweet! If I thought it wouldn't vex Mrs. Mini, I'd give ya a sloppy smooch on da side of yer face! (complementary photo of Mrs. Mini included)

Hugs,

Frannie

BrendaCloutier

((( Frannie ))))

Yes! Print out your rants. Get a medical mental diagnosis. GET AN ATTY, and one who deals with not just SSD initial claims, but all aspects of SSD, including taking the claim all the way to the supreme court if need be (I sincerely doubt you'll need to go there). An atty that goes there and wins will have the background to really help.

My very first SSD claim many years ago (I've tried to go forward in the process 3 or 4 times now) was denied because I went van-camping and climbed a few rocks up a waterfall when I realized I had exhausted my abilities and pulled my back! How can she climb a waterfall if she's disabled? Ha! AH's. Oh yea, and I carried 2 platic bags of groceries from my car up a short driveway and into my house.

You're age has a lot going for you, too. One atty said they are very hardassed on people under 50. I'm 48-2/3, so I'm getting there.

One of my bigger problems is that even though my Rheumatologist is one of the foremost recognized FMS doctors in the area, his handwriting is so bad no-one can read it! However, for a $1000 fee (Kevan is fronting), he is appearing as a witness Tuesday at my hearing. Atty sez this should boost my chances from 30% to 60-80% win, as the SSA doctor wont contradict what my doctor says on the witness stand.

Also, Kevan wrote an amazing letter recapping how my illness affects my day-to-day life. It was so good that I had him blind cc it to my doc.

Of course when I go into my doc, I'm all smiles..... a leftover JW thing.

(((( Frannie )))) Stick to it. It is such a stressfull exhausting irritating process that so many people just give up. Don't give up. You're worth it!

minimus

Frannie, Mrs. Mini and I aren't together at this time but thank you, dear.

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