yes girlfriend I do miss the coochie hugs
glad to see you and cyg are doing fine, so sorry about your pup
hubby is doin fine - he's helping me with my mk biz and 2 of the kids start school on Wednesday...so glad when they all start
My JW mom and dad
by Cygnus 35 Replies latest jw friends
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mrsjones5
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caty
Thanks Jonesy. Cyg and I have been talking on and off for about 5 months. Really, if I may speak for Cyg too, we're just working on being better people individually, since we were awfully destructive and ugly at the end. If you work on yourself, you can't go wrong. You can't help but to bring better things into your life. So that's where I'm at.
Hope your business is doing ok, if I get some ebay sales this week, I'll look you up, by the way, you interested in any clothes?
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Sunspot
Really, if I may speak for Cyg too, we're just working on being better people individually, since we were awfully destructive and ugly at the end. If you work on yourself, you can't go wrong. You can't help but to bring better things into your life. So that's where I'm at.
(((( Caty ))))
Hi Caty and welcome! I admire your honesty and your courage. Forgiveness and re-evalation is a tough chore, more so than being a victim I think.
I wish both of you every happiness and great steps in your personal growth, together and as individuals.
hugs,
Annie
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caty
Hi Annie and thank you for the warm welcome. You're absolutely right. The victim mentality is limiting and places you a position of having no choice but to stay stuck so to speak.
What contributed to that awful day in February was 2 people that were very unhealthy with each other and themselves. When you alienate yourself from the rest of the world and become extensions of each other, the relationship becomes doomed. I've since found out that you have to respect the other person as who they are, and accept nothing but respect back for who you are. It's a matter of knowing yourself, and striving to keep up with the responsibility you have towards yourself to be a good person.
You also come to a point where you accept that people make horrible decisions sometimes in times of weakness. And I was no stranger to that weakness myself. I did horrible things, and if I can forgive myself for that, I can certainly forgive others in my life. At the same time a person has a responsibility towards themselves that if the person they forgive isn't living up to being respectful of themselves and others then maybe it's time to just cut your losses. And sometimes you just choose to be patient with yourself and others.
Heh, I think I'm beginning to sound like a self-help book, but thanks Annie, for your clear understanding.
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BrendaCloutier
((( Caty )))) I'm very pleased to meet you. Your attitude is the tops. AND I'm sorry for your loss in the pups death. It's so very traumatic to loose such a good friend.
Hugs and love
auntie Brenda
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caty
Thanks Brenda!
The original subject of this post, Cyg's parents...I can personally affirm that they are wonderfully supportive and understanding parents. He is truly blessed in that area. I met them a few times, and Cyg always spoke highly of them, and he was right. They're amazing. His dad is very sick but still maintains such a presence about him, and still has such intelligence, and his mom is the most caring hard-working person you could ever meet. If only all JW's could be like that. And truth be known, even Cyg's ex-wife who is a JW is a model of how a person should be. Despite her being a witness even AFTER the divorce when Cyg needed help she always would offer assistance. They grow them differently in Buffalo perhaps. My mom is a JW and my step-father. I was never baptized because I went to live with my father once my mom became a JW ( I opposed it even at age 15) so it isn't quite the same, but I'll tell you, they came all the way back from their District Convention to help me bury my dog this Sunday. It's good to see the occasional exception to the rule.