Got a letter from my parents...

Krystal

Well, yesterday evening was a little too emotional for my liking...

I got home to find an envelope in my mailbox from my mom and dad... (I was DF'ed 4 years ago and haven't spoken to them since)

What did it contain? My sister's wedding announcement...she got married earlier this month. Needless to say I was crushed. I knew she was getting married my dad had e-mailed me to let me know, but he never told me when/where etc. Why did they have to rub it in like that? I mean I knew I wouldn't be invited but geez... sending the invitation after the wedding is over... a little harsh no?

Not only that but they also wrote a short letter telling me that my grandmother was not able to make the wedding because she was in the hospital. Apparently she has been in and out of the hospital for the last couple of months and her condition is getting worse... I haven't seen her since I moved out of home 4 years ago. I fear the next time I see her will be at her funeral.

*sigh* having a rough morning...

Emma

So sorry Krystal. My family puts the org machinery above family, too. Words may be of little comfort, but I hope the hurt eases for you. If your parents ever have an awakening, they will have a difficult time coming to terms with how coldly they've treated you.

Emma

damselfly

So sorry Krystal.

It hurts to be an afterthought to family affairs.

Not only that but they also wrote a short letter telling me that my grandmother was not able to make the wedding because she was in the hospital. Apparently she has been in and out of the hospital for the last couple of months and her condition is getting worse... I haven't seen her since I moved out of home 4 years ago. I fear the next time I see her will be at her funeral.

This is my biggest fear as well. Hang in there it gets a little better with time.

Dams

katiekitten

(((((Krystal)))))

That sucks. The only reason they sent you that announcement was to feel righteous and smug, and so they could tell themselves 'look what she is missing since she turned her back on Jehoobah'. I think that is pretty spiteful and petty.

googlemagoogle

(((Krystal)))

I fear the next time I see her will be at her funeral.

happened to me with my granddad. but not because of being "out", but being "in"... :-/

Legolas

Sorry KrystalThat is harsh!!!! Just another example of the love they show when they are trying to serve the God that 'IS' love!

Billygoat

(((((Krystal)))))
That sucks. The only reason they sent you that announcement was to feel righteous and smug, and so they could tell themselves 'look what she is missing since she turned her back on Jehoobah'. I think that is pretty spiteful and petty.

I don't know your family, so that may very well be the case, but sometimes they really do want to share happiness with you. My little brother got married just a month or so before I did three years ago. I didn't get an invitation, announcement, nothing. I told my mother that I'd like one just to have as a momento. Did I get one? Nope. I still wish I had a copy of the invite just for my keepsake box.

Ingenuous

I feel for you, Krystal.

It seems your folks are trying to balance their loyalty to the Org (by preventing you from going to the wedding, limiting contact by including news of your grandmother's illness with the wedding announcement) with maintaining some sort of contact with you on "essentials." It has to cut deep, and I expect to start experiencing much the same with my family, too. I hope you find the time and support you need to cope.

Krystal

Thanks for all your kind words...

I do agree that in time I might be glad to have this small token... but for the moment, it just seems like a hurtful thing to do...although at the moment I can't concentrate on anything but worrying about my grandmother... I have been thinking alot about her in the last little bit and I had a feeling something wasn't right... but I had done a good job of convincing myself I was just being paranoid... turns out I should listen to my instinct... the question is what to do now...

skyman

Isn't amazing how much Jehovah Loves You.

I hope some day something happens so the BORG LOOSES all it's authority over people.

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