yes that is what we are doing.......im'ing mostly.....so when she doesnt respond or signs off without reponding ......i dont know what to think
To all the single ex-dubs
by nytelecom1 24 Replies latest jw friends
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peaceloveharmony
hmm, nyt
maybe ask her what happens, casual-like, "hey what happened last night? you get kicked offline?" does that happen a lot? how long you been talking? how often? lol, you don't have to answer any of these ?'s but just curious...
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nelly136
just go with the flow nyt, only go as slow/fast as youre both comfortable with and if they like you they'll stick with you,
I'd seen a couple of jws on dating terms before I left and I've got to say the thought of marrying a bloke with L plates when it came to sex just filled me with dread, (crikey if they kissed like that I was not gonna let em loose on my body)
At the risk of sending the more 'pure of mind and body' into shudders of horror....try the damn goods out first, or at the very least check out their views on how far they are/arnt prepared to go when it comes to sex because if youre getting married to someone it helps big time if theyre compatible in the bedroom woods beach......umm oops anyways compatability helps
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Billygoat
I left the dubs when I was 19. Hadn't been on a date at all up to that point. Chaperoned or not. When I finally was freed, I didn't have any social skills with those of the opposite sex. Very pathetic. I thought if a man wanted to have sex with me that meant he wanted spend the rest of his life with me. Very, very pathetic!!!
"Dating" means different things to different people. I think there are different types of dating. This is how I've begun to look at it:
Casual dating
Not exclusively with anybody, but more hanging out with a couple different people. This is a great way to decide what characteristics you like or don't like in a relationship. It's always best to be up front in this type of dating. Let the datees know you're dating other people and not looking for something serious. I did this for the first time last summer and it was great fun! I made some wonderful guy friends!Exclusive dating
Pretty self-explanatory. Just dating one person. It is understood between two parties that you are a "couple".Serious dating
I look at this as step two of Exclusive dating. It is understood that you are a "couple with a possible future".Mug-Buddy dating
This is a very casual relationship with someone you don't necessarily like, but you have great chemistry with. Usually not much talking. Lots of making out. Both parties must fully understand the fact that there is really no future for this relationship. This can be fun too under the right circumstances.I have learned that being upfront with my expectations and desires is the best route. I don't like playing games. I say what I want up front and express what I can give up front. It may make some guys mad or feel a little intimidated, but it saves heartache and awkwardness in the long run.
For Blind-Date tips, please see my thread in the Personal Relationships column. You'll bust a gut!
Billygoat
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nytelecom1
hmm, nyt
maybe ask her what happens, casual-like, "hey what happened last night? you get kicked offline?" does that happen a lot? how long you been talking? how often? lol, you don't have to answer any of these ?'s but just curious...of course i will answer...you are willing to help : ).....most ...well actually all of our (im )conversations happen while we are at work...we have been chatting for about 2 weeks..after a week of chatting we went out for some drinks....she said the next time we im'd that she had a great time........do you think i am obsessing?? i am usually the first to initiate im's.am i the supposed to be the first to bring up a next date??...damn that young people ask book....would it be weird if i asked "do you want to continue this?" after only one date..i mean like i said i dont want to sound psycho
who needs dear abby when you have apostates??
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Stacey
LOL... who needs dear abby when you have apostates. You're a crack up. Dont ask her if she wants to continue it - just ask her out again and go from there. Take it easy with things. Be cool. If she wants to see you again she'll say yes. It doesn't have to be complicated. Just go have a good time.
Between 25 & 30 and you haven't figured it all out yet? It's ok... you probably never will! Haha. Men and women, how does anyone make it work?????
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Naeblis
I draw diagrams on my legs
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COMF
........but i dont want to come off as a psycho........
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Prisca
For goodness sake, she's probably waiting for you to ask her out! Just ask her, and try to get a definite answer fron her. Then take it from there.
So you want a JW wife, or a worldly gal, or a fence-sitter? Have you worked out what you want in life?
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BoozeRunner
Ok NYT, heres some "net" chat tips:
Hun does NOT=honey.
Luv ya does not=I love you.Trust me, I have spoken to women who use the net alot
So be careful, but just ask her to see whats on her mind.
Boozy