How well do you know your partner? (page 2)

damselfly

My marriage didn't work out for numerous reasons. The biggest one was we didn't really know each other. We were together since we were 17 and split up when I was 26. We both changed a lot during that time period. I woke up one day and realized that while I loved him I didn't like him very much. Who he was at 17 was the complete opposite of who he was at 26. Or maybe my blinders where off

My relationship now I know exactly who he is, I don't think he really knows me however.

I think as long as you are open with each other and address issues as they come up that you will be fine.

Dams

coolhandluke

I was in a relationship with a woman who I thought to be the mother of my future children. I had never felt like this about anyone. She is a living contradiction, full of rules that violate themselves, shift and change shape based on her whims. I was completely smitten by her. I changed so much of myself to be with her. I gave much of myself to her. What I realized after a long time was that she did not know herself, or what she wanted. She was following the rules of acceptance set up by her father (going to school, finding a career) and judging me based on his criteria of what a man was to be. I realized that the compromises I had made to keep her eroded the person that I was inside. I had to reclaim that man. I like him. He's my pal. I know this girl so well. I had no idea that she could be as selfish, dishonest or manipulative as she has shown me. For a long time after we broke up, I still held onto her, tightly. One day recently, I erased her number and closed all of the back doors that I have into her life.

No matter how well you know someone it is my belief that you musn't compromise the person you are for the comfort of a well known road.

lonelysheep

Very well. I guess that can be either good or bad.

Es

Thanks for all the advice....i really think alot of it is me i really dont know how to deal in a relationship and sometimes i dont even know how to deal with life. My first hubby really F#$%ED me up.......Mikes a fantastic guy and here i am stuffing it up.

Im stubborn i always have to win, i so wish i was never brought up in the truth and knew bout the real world.

Things are all good we had a great discussion last night.

luv ya

es

damselfly

I'm glad things are working out for you sweetie.

I can be very stubborn as well. It is usually to my own detriment. I am slowly learning that being right doesn't always mean that I won.

We're all here for you. I love your little updates and I am expecting loads of wedding pictures from the "big day" ( now that you know how )

Dams

Es

Yeah i guess i gave in a lot to my first hubby and i promised myself i wouldnt do that for anybody after we broke up. I just need to remember that he is not like my first hubby.

Sure will babe dont you worry i will be posting heaps of pics

Wish you could come dams

luv es