Do you like your given name, if not what name would you have liked?

by JH 21 Replies latest jw friends

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  JH

  
  Well, I like first name, but don't like my last name

  How about you?
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  cruzanheart

  My given name is Christina and I'm not that fond of it because it reminds me too much of my parents, my JW upbringing, and what I considered to be a very repressed life. So I go by the childhood nickname that I gave myself ("Christina" was a mouthful for a two-year-old!): Nina.

  Nina
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  ButtLight

  I hate my first name. "cindy" It sounds like a little kids name. Its not cynthia either. I can just see people calling me cindy when Im 80 years old.
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  FlyingHighNow

  I liked Heather all my life until everybody decided to start naming their little girls Heather. When I was a child and teenager, I never met another Heather. When I got into my twenties, all hell broke loose and there were suddenly billions of Heathers runnin' 'round. That's the only thing I don't like. I love my name, just liked it better when it was rare and unique here in the states.

  My maiden name is just plain funny. It's still kind of embarrassing. I'd like to kick the man who decided to drop the Sel off the front of it.
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  Chia

  I don't like my first name at all. I would change it to something like Isabelle or Olivia, something dramatic, glamourous and beautiful.
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  FlyingHighNow

  Anastasia would be cool, Chia.
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  Doubtfully Yours

  I absolutely love my given name. It has rhythm and flows very nicely. I've had instances in which I've told my full name to people and they've stayed repeating it a couple of times and even complimented me on it.

  DY
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  Lady Lee

  I have always hated both my first and last names. Actually I also had a middle name and hated that too.

  I was supposed to be named Suzanne. But my grandmother had a late baby and she used the name on her last daughter. So my mother decided to use Suzanne as my middle name. At one point I decided to use that as my name but it never felt right so I stopped using it.

  When I use my lat first name I still hear my parents voices yelling it at me. It just brings back a lot of negative feelings. So when I went into recovery from all the abuse and left my husband and the JWs I took a name that helped me to feel better about myself - Lee. I used the name for about 15 years and then I had it legally changed about 4 years ago. I also dropped the Suzanne at that time. I never used it so it was nicer to drop it.

  Now the last name gave me grief my whole life. In school the kids were merciless at making fun of me and my name. It was bad enough that I was always "the new kid" because we moved so much. But I hated even telling my name.

  One of the things I liked about getting married the first time was that I got to lose my father's name. But then I married a guy with a name that no one could spell. And then the Quebec government made this stupid law that when a woman married she had to use her maiden name. There wasn't even a choice. So while I could lose the married name legally I was forced to use the birth name grrrrr.

  And then I moved to Winnipeg and got married again. So about a month after I legally changed my first name I got to change the last name too. And I love it.

  One of the things I hated about moving back to Quebec was that I would be forced again to go back to my maiden name. In Ontario I had a choice. And I like the married name, Marsh, so much better than any of the other names so I'm keeping it.

  So now I am Lee Marsh.

  Cute thing is that Lee is a meadow and Marsh is... well a marsh. So now I am a marshy meadow. I even get a kick out of that.
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  Chia

  Oh, yes, Anastasia is quite lovely as well. I'm not sure if I mentioned the background on my name. I was an unexpected arrival, and my mother for some reason thought that she was going to have a boy. So she was going to name me Jared Ryan. When I was born, she had no clue what to do, and the nurses and doctors were pressuring her to name me. So she gave me this name, which she didn't even know how to spell. It's an ethnic name, and there are varied spellings. So she gave it her best guess, and guess what? People rarely pronounce it right by looking at it. That's why I have my screen name...people always call me "Chia" or "Chia Pet". Thanks Mom.
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  Gretchen956

  I can just see people calling me cindy when Im 80 years old.

  A lot better Cindy than Tiffany!

  My birth name was Sherryl, I was never called that except by my mom who was usually screaming it at me like an expletive, any other time she called me Sherry too. Later in life, to reinforce the negative stereotype, every Cheryl or Sherryl I ever met was a bitch (with apologies to any by that name here on the list).

  So, finally I had it changed legally to drop the final letter.

  I've always felt like a Sherry, people tell me I look like a Sherry, I've always liked the name.

  As regards my last name, it was Bealer, the anglicized form of Biehler. After the abuse I recieved throughout childhood I never felt a connection to it. So I kept my married name of Taylor, which, since its the same as my son's last name, works. Its sort of ironic, since my ex was an abuser too. The name was all I kept of his and I don't feel connected to him by it, just to my son. So there you have it!

  Sherry