by minimus 15 Replies latest jw friends
Other than my folks not talking to me no it wouldnt be a huge change, everybody else in the congo already treats me like im D\F so i got rid of my friends then and there.I guess i would be a little less stressed if i was D\F. I mean i was only thinking of it the other day in the next couple of months the chrissy tree will be coming out and undoubtedly my 3 year old will accidently tell my folks bout it heheheh.
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There would be a couple of people who would no longer talk to me, but since I only speak to them about three times a year as it is, I doubt it would make much difference in my life. I'm sure I'd feel slightly bad for a little while...nobody likes to be tossed away as if they don't matter, but I'm sure I'd recover quickly. I'm lucky in that I have no relatives that are JWs, so being kicked out won't impact my family life at all.
Now if I could just rid myself of this annoying habit of just marking time in my life. I've gotten so used to not making things happen because I was waiting for the Big A to come along. Must stop being such an observer and learn to be more of a do-er.
Would Your Life Change If You Were Suddenly Disfellowshipped?
Well I might be a little late but I will answer. It changed every single aspect of my life. I got the divorce I wanted but in thye process I lost my family, all my friends, my religion and even my children for a short while. I also lost a big part of me and who I thought I was. I had to start over from scratch. Being DFed meant that I was doomed to death. I had no education, no trade, no skills. I couldn't even support myself. Well I learned young to survive a hell of a lot so I started to pick up the pieces of my life or what was left of it. Like Humpty Dumpty I was broken and had to rebuild. I went into therapy and started college and slowly created a new me and a new life. It's been 20 years and I'm free.
I don't know what for. Unless not attending meetings/not turning in a time slip become grounds for DFing.
A couple of people might stop talking to me but I have already distancee myself emotionally from the JWs I have known over the years.
BTW what is "suddenly"? Doesn't the BOE have to give you a week to appeal, then there is the original JC and the appeal JC?
Freedom means nothing left to lose.
Blondie
not as much as it once would have done
The longer I'm out----about 3 years since I've been to a meeting----the easier it is to see that JWs are irrelevant. My mom has repeatedly told me that if I ever got d'fd, she would not care what the elders would do to her for still associating with me. I seldom ever see my brother and sil. Like I said, the only thing thar could affect me is some revenue loss.
