I've prayed and prayed to Jehovah for relief of abuse from family members who are IN THE TRUTH--yet it goes on and on..........
My daughter and her grandparents
by kwintestal 38 Replies latest jw experiences
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gladdy
kwin. how sad, but nothing would surprise me. I wish all this would get in the papers so people would really know these teachings. they should be made to feel that they cannot knock on any door, and wouldnt it be something if grandparents can be sued for child neglect! and abuse!
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defd
so calico what would be your advise to him or encouragement for him? Also, I am sorry for your experience.
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Rayvin
My bad, .. I read her comment of "dont let them get you depressed" as her talking about how his parents were acting ....
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calico
Good question! But following the society or any elder's advice has gotton me nowhere.
Kwin--Give your daughter a big hug from me--a 7 year old should never be put through an experience like this!
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Rayvin
From what I understand.. family is allowed to speak w/ df'd ones if they HAVE to as long as they don't discuss religion. So if the grandparents wanted to visit thier grandchild they can but the conversation between themselves and the df'd one needs to be brief.. ex " Hello.. we are here to have a visit w/ our grandchild.. may we take her to the park for an hour or two?". They seem to be taking a different idea on how it works or how to behave. ==clarification: this isn't how I think it should be.. i am just stating how I understood it to be while under the mind control of the WTS.
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kwintestal
Kwin abviously your daughter is not disfellowshipped, right? (She cried for almost an hour because my parents refused to come visit her) Why dont they come visit her? It is not PROHIBITED by the FS to do so. That is a desicion your PARENTS have made, not an ORDER from the FS. Sounds like to me your parents have fallen into the PHARISAIC trap. Not dogging your parents, I dont know them. That is a sad situation. If I were you I would LOOK up the RULES around dealing with family members who are disfellowshipped and send it to your parents. I am CERTAIN, you will not find ANYTHING that promotes the shunning of your child. And maybe, just maybe that will open the eyes of you parents and they will change. Wouldnt you like that to happen?
Defd, I've found nothing in the BIBLE that says they should shun me. I'm not a fornicator, idolitor, adulterer, theif, murderer, drunkard or anything like that. I pay my taxes, am honest, trustworthy, and respected in the community. The ONLY thing I am guilty of are things "above the law" such as not wanting to be part of an organisation that has done a lot of horrible things to ME directly, and to many other people who I've come to care deeply for over the past few years.
Kwin
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Legolas
Good idea Calico....Mr ans Mrs Kwin give your daughter a hug from all of us!
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kwintestal
Thanks Calico and Gladdy for your thoughts. Calico, I'll pass on that hug when she gets home from school.
Rayvin, that was my understanding too, but my parents are quite dogmatic about everything, esp. my mom. My dad just goes along and does her dirty work (ex. calling me) for her.
Kwin
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happygirl
We are in the same type of situation with our seven year old son,only he has no knowledge as to why his dfd' family have nothin to do with us.His gandfather has seen him once,The rest of my husband's siblings here in otttawa shun us,I will wait till he is close to adulthood to explain the situation to him so not to harm him emotionally,he is very much loved by all of my family and lots of friends.UNCONDITIONALLY!The really sick thing is that the cult actually teach their seven year old's and younger,to shun people and that is probably more harmful to the children than anything!
