I was wondering something and wanted to see what others thought ...
My sister, an active Witness, recently became a foster parent to a baby. In history, the baby is the child of my uncles underage girlfriend, that he is now serving time for raping (under age, always seen as a rape). The young woman was doing METH (clean for almost a year now), and was living with her own mother who was an alcoholic. About six months ago we learned about the baby, as we have had little contact with that side of the family for years. My sister went down to see the baby and when she saw the conditions it was in, she called the Child Services to have them look into it and get the baby into a better situation. They went down and checked it out and presented the young mother with warnings and explained she would be placed into a foster home, with her child. To which she was about a week later, and we did not hear anything. My sister during the mean time, registered as a foster parent and explained to Child Services that she would be willing to watch the child if needed, while the mother straightened up her life ***
*** my sister is married to a non-Witness, who does not want children. He even went so far as to get fixed at age 22 to make sure this did not happen. My sister encouraged this, as she did not want to see her marriage break up over issues with raising children in a mixed religious household. Now she claims that we made up that information, even though she told enough people, that she has had to face that issue many times and at multiple family get together. She claims it was a joke she said and not serious. She now claims they did this because her husband has a undecended testicle and could not father a child anyway. Her husband still states "I do not want children!" ***
Okay, back in July my sister got a call to take the child as the foster situation was not working out. My sister told me about it and I explained that it was not going to be easy, as she will get attached (child was six months old) and when she has to let go it will be heart-breaking. She stated, "no, six months max is all we have him and then back to normal life. We are doing this because he is family and it is the right thing to do." So she gets him, not even a month later, I now have my sister stated she wants to adopt him and hates the real month and wishes she would go away. She is doing things with Child Services to trap the real mother into making mistakes and laughing about it, as the real month is 15 years old and my sister is 36. The real mother makes a lot of mistakes when she has him, which is about 1 weekend every two weeks. Keep in mind though, she is 15, and how many 15 year old know as much as a 36 year old. My sister has it all planned out, that she will adopt this child. My uncle who wont be out of prison for 20 years (multi-issues, not just rape), gave up parental rights. The mother is fighting to keep her child and is angry that the baby is now closer to my sister. The states plans to take away her parental rights by January and take her child and put it up for adoption, which will be first dibs to my sister. The young mother does not have a chance in hell of keeping it, she is poor young and way to inexperienced to know what to do. The state is happy to do this, my sister is happy to get a child. My brother-in-law, well, he has repeatedly said "I do not want to keep the child permanent!" My sister has not even discussed with him adopting and kept all her work behind his back. He doesn't even know what is happening.
With this in mind ... my sister tells me I am not being supportive to her wishes, as I keep saying "I wish he could be raised by his real mom" and make comments that "you said it was only six months and you would not get attached." To which she now says she never said that.
Am I wrong in being disgusted?