I was told by my study conductors that there was a ....."...time to laugh and a time to cry..." so on and so forth. My daughter had been dead less than two years at the time and I was devastated. They also pointed out that my continuing to grieve for her showed a lack of faith in the resurrection promise.
Wow! I couldn't believe my ears. I asked them if they had ever lost a child and they said no, but we are ......."just reminding you ----- that your' daughter is now unaware of what is going on, she has paid the ultimate price for her imperfection. Therefore, you should be more optimistic about this situation and trust god more. If you don't then it could be that you lack faith in god and the guidance that is given to you through the society".
It was incredible to hear these nasty people give out such "timely advice" in such a cold and distant manner. At the time I was so vulnerable I chose to stay with the teachings and try to subsume my grief so as not to be overly adoring of my child. For.." There is sometimes a risk that we can show a form of worship in our displays of grief; a grief that Satan will use as a lever to stop you from learning about Jehovah's ways".
Yes! They were telling me that my grief, if sustained for too long, could provide Satan with the perfect weapon to stop my progress in the truth. I was told to ...more or less...".get over it as soon as possible and get out in the field work and meet others in the truth and all would be okay".