SecretHeart11

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  Guide to Helping Other Break Free

  by LisaRose in

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  i have come up with a guide to helping others break free of the watchtower, based loosely on steve hassan's book, combatting cult mind control and incorporating experiences of other jwn posters who have been successful in helping their family leave the watchtower.

  i posted an earlier draft of this and got some great feedback.

  here is the final version with some additional information and incorporating many of your suggestions.

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  SecretHeart11

  Wonderful, thank you!
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  Since you left, have you become more moral?

  by Coded Logic in

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  respect.

  sympathy.

  gossip.

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  SecretHeart11

  I think in a lot of ways, yes. I was so afraid to have an opinion before because I thought I had to read the WT to tell me what I thought. I guess I feel more confident in my morals.
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  B.C. provincial court-Jehovah's Witness grandparents ordered to keep faith to themselves

  by mzmmom3 in

  1. jw
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  i re joined just to post this.

  great feeling of validation, as this is why my entire family disowned me.. http://www.cbc.ca/m/news/canada/british-columbia/jehovah-s-witness-grandparents-ordered-to-keep-faith-to-themselves-1.3282193.

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  I just read this and think it is go great! Good for them for following through! I wish I could do this with some of our family :-/
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  Getting it out of my system, a VERY long introduction/outpouring..

  by adimmedlight in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  warning, novel ahead:.

  after a few months of lurking on this site, i've decided to take the plunge...i don't really care so much about introducing myself, but somehow there is some relief in the thought of getting my little story out there, just getting it out of my system.

  i am the oldest of 5 kids.

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  SecretHeart11

  Welcome, friend! I read your whole story. I hope you find peace and contentment. Please don't feel guilty! You sound like such a kind and gently person. I found a lot of great advice here. Search around in the old topics, there is such a great amount of information!
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  That's what's missing from our family

  by dissonance_resolved in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  tonight as i was putting my son to bed, we were looking out his bedroom window from his bed, down upon the neighbors' house across the street.

  they have a beautiful, big sparkly christmas tree in their front window and my son gazed at it and said, "that's what's missing from our family.

  " talk about daggers through the heart!.

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  SecretHeart11

  That is a very similar situation to our family now. I think the children will value having your unconditional love no matter what. I wouldnt put them in the middle by giving them secret gifts they might feel guilty for. As a child I was constantly put in the situation of choosing which parent to make sad by celebrating or not. I'm still an anxious person in large part because of that. But I do try and do something to acknowledge or recognize each child. Holidays are mainly about the family togetherness.

  I'm sorry for the crappy situation you (we!) are in.
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  Guess who...

  by sooner7nc in

  1. jw
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  ...just passed his last nursing final and is now a graduate nurse?.

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  Congrats that's super exciting!
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  I have a TASK for you to perform. Come on--it will be FUN!

  by Terry in

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  2. friends

  look up in the right-hand corner of this page.. find where it says welcome (name).. did you locate that?.

  now click on your name and observe the new page loading takes you to a top blue bar with a menu.. it should read:.

  active topics search members topics started .

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  SecretHeart11

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/273185/1/New-Anxious

  I don't post a lot since I only ever visit the site on my iPhone, but my first post / thread was the longest. 4 pages. It was actually thrilling for me to be honest about myself, to complete strangers, and have them be more accepting and supportive that I'm afraid my family will ever be. This site has kept me sane.
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  Commenting At The Meetings---Did You Enjoy It?

  by minimus in

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  was that important for you?

  most people, i believe, forced themselves to give an answer.

  i knew many elders and servants over the years being counseled because they rarely answered.. funny thing....my mom who is 88 cries if she doesn't give a comment.

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  SecretHeart11

  Minimus, my mom is the same. Gets really upset when she can't answer more than 15 times a study.
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  Would You Become A JW Again If Local Congregations Could Become Independent?

  by Space Madness in

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  2. friends

  for those who still believe in god, if local congregations could break away from the watchtower would you consider becoming a witness again.

  this would mean no more governing body, circuit overseers, watchtower magazines, and each congregation could have its own "new light".

  most of us left because of the control (no college, disfellowsipping) but if the watchtower was out of the picture, all of this would disappear.

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  SecretHeart11

  Yes if it was as you outlined I would be much more open to that
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  Keep Seeking First God's Kingdom - RC 2014 - Sunday

  by OwnAccord in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  a world without satan (revelation 20:2,3,7,10).

  romans 12- joy in the kingdom hope.

  the spirit.. demonstration: family worship.

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  SecretHeart11

  I'm confused... I know people in the Suday Drama this year, it was a recorded one Played? What was the big new light? Hmm...

  ps - thanks for posting all this info