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  My Story

  by SamTheGinge in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so, i joined just yesterday after coming across this forum looking at beth sarim, and i though that i would share my story with you.

  it will no doubt be very similar to a lot of others, but it's a way of getting to know me at least.. i was brought up as witness from the age of 4 years old, my dad picked up the 'truth' from one of his friends in the pub and it seemed to go from there, he would quickly get baptised and progress to becoming a ministerial servant and then an elder.

  from a young age i wanted to be like my dad and become a pioneer, a ministerial servant and then an elder... perhaps even becoming a co. the world, spiritually speaking, was my oyster.

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  If your dad shows an interest in your daughter, then that is nice.

  BUT, if I was in your shoes, I would help him to see that he cannot exclude you in those interactions.

  When he calls or messages or skypes, just be there chatting with him as well. Show him by your conduct that you don't respect the imposed restrictions that the religion has placed on your interactions.

  Show him what is actual appropriate conduct by just being normal.

  This will also show your daughter a powerful thing....

  If he then tries to cut the interaction because he feels uncomfortable, that is HIS problem...not yours
  
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  Fudging The Numbers JW Style

  by pale.emperor in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i know most of us have probably figured this out already, but remember the good old days where you could only count full hours in the ministry?.

  then one of the gb get some "new light" from their ass and proclaim that they lovingly will allow people to report 30mins, then even 15mins of time.

  this was, supposedly, so that the old and infirm could have a joy in the ministry and report what little they could do.

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  Wasn't King David punished for taking a census count in order to boast about his numbers??
  
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  Learn To Speak Like A Jehovah's Witness

  by pale.emperor in

  1. social
  2. humour

  for those who were never a jw, here's a fun guide to passing yourself as one:.

  privilege [priv-lij] - a duty nobody would volunteer to do which is assigned to you without your say so.

  such as cleaning the toilets, picking up other brats candy wrappers in the back row and being stuck on locking up duty for the 7th time in a row.. df'd [dee-eff'd] - disfellowshipped.

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  "Spiritual standing" : How active in visible JW activities one is

  "Humility" : How willing a JW is to being told how to live his life by 7 men who don't even know him
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  Something to laugh about

  by HappyGal in

  1. social
  2. humour

  when you've been in a cult and then get out what should you do?.

  laugh about it!

  find the funny.. that's what the ex-jw in this you tube video did.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1r60wd-k0nc.

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  Absolutely brilliant and so very true !!!!
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  My Story

  by SamTheGinge in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so, i joined just yesterday after coming across this forum looking at beth sarim, and i though that i would share my story with you.

  it will no doubt be very similar to a lot of others, but it's a way of getting to know me at least.. i was brought up as witness from the age of 4 years old, my dad picked up the 'truth' from one of his friends in the pub and it seemed to go from there, he would quickly get baptised and progress to becoming a ministerial servant and then an elder.

  from a young age i wanted to be like my dad and become a pioneer, a ministerial servant and then an elder... perhaps even becoming a co. the world, spiritually speaking, was my oyster.

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  Welcome mate!

  You are amongst people who all respect one another's personal journey. That is something we never got to do as witnesses - respect others personal choices and journeys

  You sound like many of us who went through the steps of being "a perfect witness child". Now as adults, we get to use our own logical thinking skills to determine our own values and life choices.

  And in most cases, we become even BETTER people that we were as witnesses! Unlike the stuff the society spews out, we DO NOT become wicked, selfish sinners. No, we actually become kinder, more caring and less judgemental.
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  Why take it personally?

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  a random thought occurred to me today.. i actually feel genuinely sorry for witnesses who cut contact with ones they feel are no longer "spiritual" .. they do this based not on anything that the person has actually done to them personally, but due to an imposed view from the society.. it must play havoc with their inner conscience as they try and reconcile that the person they cut off has not actually done anything to harm them, but they have to view them as evil.. it reminded me of this thread i started some time back.

  https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5751633187176448/all-my-friends-organisation.

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  Well said Giordano!

  That reminded me of the comments said by one of the Gb in a talk once: "now, unlike the Isrealite days, we cant stone rebellious people...but we can DF them"

  It was almost like they WISHED they COULD stone them!

  Now that is Sick behaviour
  
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  Why take it personally?

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  a random thought occurred to me today.. i actually feel genuinely sorry for witnesses who cut contact with ones they feel are no longer "spiritual" .. they do this based not on anything that the person has actually done to them personally, but due to an imposed view from the society.. it must play havoc with their inner conscience as they try and reconcile that the person they cut off has not actually done anything to harm them, but they have to view them as evil.. it reminded me of this thread i started some time back.

  https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5751633187176448/all-my-friends-organisation.

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  Good point Landy!

  I guess that they feel "righteously justified" in doing so!
  
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  Why take it personally?

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  a random thought occurred to me today.. i actually feel genuinely sorry for witnesses who cut contact with ones they feel are no longer "spiritual" .. they do this based not on anything that the person has actually done to them personally, but due to an imposed view from the society.. it must play havoc with their inner conscience as they try and reconcile that the person they cut off has not actually done anything to harm them, but they have to view them as evil.. it reminded me of this thread i started some time back.

  https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5751633187176448/all-my-friends-organisation.

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  Nice comments!
  Yes, I still treat all individuals the same way. I hold nothing against any witness.

  It just amazes me that they on the other hand feel justified or even compelled to treat us like we have done something wrong. All in fact we have done is research the "truth". In fact we are the ones who need support, as we have been rocked by the facts we have discovered.

  Ah well...cults will act like cults I guess.
  
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  J W Survey Article : Upcoming Assembly Encourages J W Youth to Lie About Homosexuality

  by BluesBrother in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  ..........however, it seems that this practice [theocratic warfare] is seeping more and more into regular witness life.

  in fact, one speech outline for the upcoming 2017 circuit assembly appears to directly encourage witnesses to lie to the general public about watchtower’s teachings on homosexuality............. http://jwsurvey.org/mind-control/upcoming-2017-jw-assembly-encourages-witness-youths-to-lie-about-homosexuality.

  nb this is a month old.. if it has been previously posted and i missed it, sorry .

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  If the principle from the bible supposedly said by Jesus is to be abided by, then there is no room for witnesses to be "non-practising gays"

  They say "you cant even think it in your heart". This has nothing to do with acting on those desires.

  So the premise said above that a "gay" person can be so but just cant practice it is false.

  As a witness once said "you cant be a racist in your heart, because God still knows your thoughts, and one day you will act on those feelings anyway"
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  So the Elders want to get together, and I kinda want to.

  by Darkknight757 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so the wife and i were uninvited to another jw get together which we didn't want to go to anyways.

  finally we find out that something on my facebook account is getting some people's in my old halls undies in a bunch.

  so i was thinking of meeting with them to at least clear my wife's name and give them some much needed hell.

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  Ensure that appropriate boundaries are respected!

  You should never feel forced or compelled into anything that you don't wish to be involved with. That includes a railroaded meeting with elders.

  If such a meeting does occur though, turn the tables, and instead of sitting there waiting for them to dictate the discussion and direction the meeting takes, you take control.

  Imagine if you said right at the beginning "ok thanks for meeting together so and so..., now I'd like to start with a prayer, then I'll outline the matter of discussion. Please bow your heads now...." etc....

  Watch them explode with rage that you show disdain for their "power and authority"!