Posts by stuckinarut2

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Picking up the pieces

by longgone in

just needing a listening ear, so in advance thanks for being here, no one other than ex-jw's could understand.

they may try, but i think only a person who lived through it could know what's its really like.. i wish i could be supporting others here but i'm so broken myself i can't seem to do that yet.

i hope that will come in time though.. for now, i'm trying to undo the damage done to my family by the wts.

stuckinarut2

A sincere and genuine "welcome" longgone!

This is a safe place to express your thoughts and reclaim your life.

Thanks for sharing your story.

As many of us have experienced, one of the key steps in breaking free, is to give yourself permission to let go of the FOG that high control groups heap on people. (Fear, Obligation, Guilt)

Remember, "The only power people or situations have over us is that which we allow".

Also, see clearly that the life we had was indeed one that fit the BITE model. That stands for :

Behaviour Control

Information control

Thought Control

Emotional control

I found that simply being aware of these facts, helps in the process of breaking free of the feeling of entrapment that we battle.

You have done really well in seeing a proffesional to assist in your journey. A "Cognitive Behaviour Therapist" is another great specialist to see.

Much love!

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If the "society" were a person, he would be disfellowshipped!

by stuckinarut2 in

that realisation struck me the other day!.

if the society was an individual person, he would be disfellowshipped!

well, he has had a history of telling mistruths, half truths and distortions of facts.

stuckinarut2

That realisation struck me the other day!

If the society was an individual person, he would be Disfellowshipped!

Why?

Well, he has had a history of telling mistruths, half truths and distortions of facts. His history has been deliberately obscured.

He has advocated dangerous directives for others to follow that has compromised their choices on Health, Education, Family life, Employment etc.

He has secretly colluded with organizations that he has outrightly condemned to others.

He has used tactics that border on abuse to keep people trapped in his association. He threatens those who try and leave with punitive measures.

He imposes his views on people's private family lives.

He minimises the severity of child abuse.

The list goes on. Feel free to add to it!

So, if this "person" was in a congregation, he should be disfellowshipped right?

19

Back again to say hi! Life update after walking away from the cult.

by Darkknight757 in

i hope all is well.

my last post over a month ago was going to be the last considering i wanted to get away from all things jw but this place is much harder to ignore than previously thought.

life has taken some very interesting turns since late last year.

stuckinarut2

Beautiful opening post!

Yes, well done in regaining the physical and emotional control over your lives.

As has often been said, the best revenge (or answer) is to live a happy and successful life.

Congratulations on the wonderful news of your pregnancy. Sincere love to you guys!

9

Is God impressed?

by LevelThePlayingField in

so a young baptized brother gets to run the microphones.

so he eagerly runs up and down the isle passing the microphone.

he's so happy because "he's being used by jehovah".

stuckinarut2

It's all about outward appearances in the society!

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Fires! "Catastrophic fire conditions" in New south Wales, Australia

by zeb in

"catastrophic" is the highest level of fire danger and is current in most of nsw.

temperatures in the high 40's ( c )are being recorded.. some fires have broken out already.

please keep the fire fighters and these country folk in minds and prayers.. the city of sydney may face power outs as the electrical system cant keep up with the demand for power.

stuckinarut2

And in Perth (on the other side of Australia) it is flooding!

Just watch how the brothers spin this as "signs of the last days"

10

VIDEO: Queensland - Durack Kingdom Hall - 30th Anniversary

by darkspilver in

jw
friends

this newly released original 1987 archival footage - with voice-over narration, commentary and interviews with those involved - takes an in depth look at both the history of the durack kingdom hall and the construction of the current kingdom hall that culminated over two weekends in january 1987.. the original kingdom hall in durack dates back to 1960 - but as the jws continued to experience growth in australia - increasing by some 280% over the following 25 years, it was felt that a new, larger, kingdom hall was now needed.. the new kingdom hall was built in january 1987, but rather than simply pull-down the original kingdom hall, they decided to incorporate it within the new kingdom hall and have a somewhat large auditorium.. another interesting feature of this kingdom hall is the tiered seating used for the back few rows (for example see part 3 around 12:35 and part 4 around 10:50).

(see also the thread from last december - video queensland strathpine kh 30th anniversary ).

durack kingdom hall, 20 freeman road, durack, brisbane, qld 4077google map: https://goo.gl/maps/yhyubk4rvt92streetview: https://goo.gl/maps/lkmgvbmlk2d2.

stuckinarut2

And what is the condition of that congregation now?

Is it still in existence, or has the society taken possession of that hall and sold it?

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Endure or Enjoy??

by stuckinarut2 in

have we ever noticed how witnesses are constantly being told that life is something that needs to be "endured", rather that "enjoyed"?.

life is always so tough, so hard, so difficult in "these last days".

"persecution and trials abound".

stuckinarut2

Have we ever noticed how witnesses are constantly being told that life is something that needs to be "ENDURED", rather that "ENJOYED"?

Life is always so tough, so hard, so difficult in "these last days". "Persecution and Trials abound". "Worldly people and opposers" are always trying to make things hard for "Jehovah's people" etc...

Life is not promoted as something to be ENJOYED now, but rather just to be put up with, until "the real life" occurs in the "paradise".

It must mess with the minds of witnesses??

Any thoughts?

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Hi I'm new to the site

by Raque Invierno in

hi everyone, i've just registered and thought i might introduce myself and tell my experience.

my name's raquel.. i was born into a jw family.

i started leading a double life around 14y/o and got caught drinking by another sister when i was 15 and saw that as my opportunity to quit the panthomime and stopped going to the meetings.

stuckinarut2

Welcome!

This is a great community, that provides support and interaction with ones who really understand our backgrounds and experiences.

Feel free to join in the fun!

And welcome to the Real Life ! A life free of FOG ( Fear, Obligation Guilt)

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Hypocrisy Overload! "When Loved Ones Do Not Share Your Faith: Awake!—2003"

by pale.emperor in

came across this article regarding non jw relatives.

the hypocrisy in this article is astounding.. http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102003808#h=10.

my comments are in yellow.. .

stuckinarut2

Oh wow! What hypocrisy indeed!

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Sparlock is making his rounds again

by stillin in

i was at the meeting last night and the dreadful video about caleb and sparlock was forced upon the audience.

honestly, i had forgotten how bad it was.

the mother's manipulative over-reaction and caleb's acceptance that his toy was evil.

stuckinarut2

Why would they trot out that old video again?

Maybe the flock have been ignoring the "direction" from the GB??