I realised only recently that I never really had the chance to REALLY grieve for those who had died! As a good witness, we were supposed to hold it in, otherwise it might imply a lack of faith or belief in the resurrection hope!
It wasn't until attending a proper funeral (ie non witness) that I experienced the cathartic and appropriate grieving process that humans need to go through!
It makes me wonder how many witnesses have bottled up feelings that they have never dealt with....and what emotional damage that does to them....