Puff Candy:
I can "totally relate" to what you are going thru and I was a baptized jw for years!!!
The JW's that are totally happy have the answer for "everything"....(or they "think they do" because they are under "mind control".)
When I talk to family members I and don't say a lot but try to infuse a little...I come up feeling just as frustrated as you. Wishing I hadn't said a thing.....
Best advise I can give is this: do not volunteer any more of your feelings...(you don't have to) if they ask you a personal question just say: "It causes me too much pain to discuss this"....(do NOT say any more)...
Part of spiritual warfare is not saying what doesn't need to be said.................Start doing that yourself............
Protect yourself.....just reinforce your love for your MOM, that is all you need to do....
Hugs,
CodeBlue