Posts by codeblue

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Mom Died -- and I found out from an old friend!

by BrendaCloutier in

ok, i'm writing this thru tears as i just found out in the last 5 minutes.

my dad died in august, and they had been together just 1 or 2 weeks over 70 years married!

i didn't expect her to last without him, and visa versa.. i just tried to call my sister, and no answer there.

codeblue

(((Brenda)))

I am so terribly sorry and sad for you

I know what it is like to loose both parents....

I am here if you want to pm me....or call me on the phone.

Codeblue

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Remember Me?

by prophecor in

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friends

my voice hasn't been heard here in quite some time.

i just wanted everyone to know that you all are truly missed.

since having no access to the internet, i no longer can keep up with all that's going on, from the inside-out.

codeblue

of course I have missed you..........

Glad you posted again.......keep posting!

Codeblue

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when HallMark writers have a bad Day

by purplesofa in

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ever wondered what happens when hallmark writers are having a bad day........ .

//////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////// my tire was thumping.

i thought it was flat .

in recent weeks, i have seen several posters that some call the jw "lurkers," meaning the witnesses who read the articles of this site, and are perhaps questioning what the watchtower has been teaching them, yet are still very defensive of the watchtower's actions.

as a result, i have seen and participated in several heated debates.

it seems the main criticism of us is that we focus too much on the "negative," that we dig up the past too much, and worst of all, that we have nothing to really complain about, other than the personal vendettas some of us have against the watchtower.

codeblue

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What if she never leaves JWs? (The interminable waiting period...)

by AuldSoul in

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this has nothing to do with whether i love my wife.

i always will.. pragmatically, i have come to the devastating conclusion that i don't want to be married to a jw.

any jw.. she asked me last night, "so, do you believe in santa clause, now?

codeblue

(((Auld Soul)))

I am so sorry you are going thru this. It is very painful to not be respected by someone you love. I am going thru this with my son. (I have have a broken heart from him)

There was a time when NOdenial was on the road to leaving being a JW and was making me feel like our marriage was going to end and he would cheat on me. The WTBS does a great job reinforcing that line of thinking: when one leaves the WTBS he has left Jehovah as well and then your marriage is over. He finally stopped talking about his anti-jw statements. Even though he wouldn't go to meetings, he would listen as I rambled about things that irritated me, mainly: the obvious lack of love.

We would have weekly dates and would have fun, just the 2 of us. An obvious reminder to me, that he loved me and wouldn't leave me.

It was a very painful emotional time in our life... but as Big Tex and others recommend, patience. (patience is hard for me too) (marriage counseling is highly advised as well)

take care

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Really bummed out!!

by crazyblondeb in

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friends

i'm just really venting here!!

some of you know work has been a bit slow!

i work for a company that makes parts for 3m.

codeblue

(((Shelley)))

I am so sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am hear for ya anytime you want to vent.......pm me!

Codeblue

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Why does this hurt so much?

by lola28 in

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friends

okay, here it is a few months ago i sent in a letter to da myself, the elders refused to da me ( there is a first time for everything, i guess) and well i just kinda let it go.

over the last month i've come to realize that life is too short to spend it doing something that does not make you happy.

i think that a very small part of me still held on to the idea that it might be the truth, but after giving it a lot of thought i've come to realize that i have not believed in this for a long time.

codeblue

"The truth hurts"

I know we have heard that saying over and over.

Being true to yourself and others does hurt. IF being honest and truthful means you are dead to others that is added proof that you were in a "cult".

I have had to remind myself of this for over 2 weeks now.

I send you many hugs... and remind you: you are valued and loved

Codeblue

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What's your favorite Thanksgiving food/recipe?

by Frannie Banannie in

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mine's a toss-up.

baking powder <i use calumet>1/2 tsp.

salt1/4 cup sugar <optional>1/4 cup vegetable oil or shortening <crisco>1 egg1 cup milk preheat oven to 400 degrees.

codeblue

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What's your favorite Thanksgiving food/recipe?

by Frannie Banannie in

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friends

mine's a toss-up.

baking powder <i use calumet>1/2 tsp.

salt1/4 cup sugar <optional>1/4 cup vegetable oil or shortening <crisco>1 egg1 cup milk preheat oven to 400 degrees.

codeblue

Hey ya'll listen up: Frannie is a great cook. She sent me the Chicken TNT recipe and it was a hit here and with others that I sent it too.

(((Frannie))) I wish I had some kewl recipes for T-day to share...but I don't...

Thanks for these recipes...can't wait to try them out!

Codeblue

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just found this site today

by TopDog in

this is a great site, thank you to whoever started it.

i left the "truth" about 6 years ago and like many i still feel guilty about it.

my older brother lives in dominican republic, he moved there about 12 years ago to help where the need is greater.

codeblue

Welcome