Posts by codeblue

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Sleepless Nights..

by Sassy in

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don't you just hate them.

i seem to have a horrible habit lately of waking up at some ungodly hour (i can say that now right?)..

and then i can't fall back asleep.. i'm amazed how well i actually function the next day sometimes..

codeblue

Sassy:

Sorry to hear you are having so much trouble with sleep!!!

I can sympathize with your problem, have had it since 1997. My ex left me that year, and I HAD to get up and go to work and really needed to be able to sleep and sleep all night. My Dr. prescribed Ativan (I took 1, 1 hour before bedtime) It worked so well...that I ended up taking it 3 years......NOT suppose to....since it is in the Valium family.

I got off of the Ativan by taking Amitriptyline, which is a anti-depressant that is prescribed for people with sleeping problems. It got me off the Ativan but I didn't like one of the side affects...pm. me if you want to know what it was.

Then a gal at work recommended Melatonin: worked ok, but I had to take 3 at least an hour before bedtime. And YES, I found a side affect that may NOT bother you but it was CRAZY NIGHTMARES...wow...that's all I can say.

Now I take 2 benadryls (they help my allergies too) and also 400 mg of magnesium and hour before bedtime.. Magnesium helps you to sleep.

Hope my suggestions can be of some assistance....Have you been to a Dr. for this problem? Underlying problems can determine why you have a sleeping disorder, some are medical. Depression is a huge cause for a lot of sleepless nights.

Take care,

Codeblue

19

Well, do ya?

by onacruse in

lol, i just thought i'd start a thread in this rather quiet forum, to see what happens!

man, i work my butt off every day, swinging a hammer and scratchin' my head...what other physical activities do i need?.

craig.

codeblue

A 30 minute, walk a day, if you want a good cardio workout= heart smart!!!

(not sure exactly what you are searching for...)

Codeblue

47

Everybody, I need your help re Daughter

by xjw_b12 in

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as some of you know, when cj and i were married, i adopted her daughter, and raised her as my own.

i love her so much, i never referred to her as step-daughter, and never will.

she calls me dad, even though her biological father, somehow found his way out out of the woodwork, when she turned 18.

codeblue

ok...it is not a matter of acting like JW parents here...you are still Parents and have the right to set boundaries that might affect your younger children at home. Nothing wrong with that.

XJW: ...Your daughter (you raised ) knows who her father is...YOU...you were there for her. I know this for a fact. In my first marriage my husband had a child from a previous marriage and called me MOM once he got full custody. Even when my ex (scumbag) left me, this child who was not my biological child, was there for me. He was so mad at his Dad he refused to talk to him for 2 years. Kids know who the "real" parent is and it doesn't have to do with biology.

Hope all works for the best for you and your family.

Codeblue

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I'm in!

by seattleniceguy in

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friends

just got word: i'm back in the saddle at ms!

woo hoo!

*moonwalks around his living room*.

codeblue

Congrats Seattle....

Codeblue

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Social Skills 101 for Newbies

by codeblue in

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pettygrudger and i jokingly chatted about writing a book about this subject...maybe just a "thread" could be of help to newbies that are having problems in learning how to associate beyond jw's.. any suggestions for this new topic?.

codeblue

Momofmany:

I would never laugh at you or anyone who really needs help. I have been a stay home Mom before, I can identify with your delima. When I was raising my sons, I was a full fledged JW, so like Petty said, you pretty much have "built in friends".

I just relocated a year ago....have no children (they are adults and married and live so far away that I rarely get to see them)...learned the truth about the "truth"(tm) and found myself in a similar delima of needing a new social circle. I have worked in the public before and am a "people person"....so it is easier to get a new life, but my husband travels out of town for work, so I have spent a lot of time alone.

You are not interupting this thread at all....it's for and about NEWBIES..that's you!!!

Take care and I hope you and your family does well.

Codeblue

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I did it ! I told my JW mother that I am pagan !

by Sirona in

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yes, i did it.. after the thread in which i asked how i could possibly tell my jw mum that i'm pagan....i decided to take the bull by the horns and tell her.. her reaction made me wonder if she reads this board.. firstly, to "ease" her in, i mentioned that i'm doing a course in reiki.

reiki is a complimentary therapy - basically hands on healing.

well, she said she knew a little about reiki and thought it was a good idea.

codeblue

Sirona:

Congrats on your conversation with your Mom....and I am glad to know it went so well. Your Mom really does love you, unconditionally.

How long have you been practicing Reiki? Let us know if your Mom enjoyed her session of Reiki.

I am especially happy that you too are communicating so well. My Mom died when I was 14, and I would love to have a Mom to talk to and share things with. I am very happy for those that have such a loving relationship with their Moms...

Codeblue

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Social Skills 101 for Newbies

by codeblue in

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pettygrudger and i jokingly chatted about writing a book about this subject...maybe just a "thread" could be of help to newbies that are having problems in learning how to associate beyond jw's.. any suggestions for this new topic?.

codeblue

Momofmany:

Please don't isolate yourself...get out of the house!!!

Do you live in a subdivision that has many children? Go out and introduce yourself to your neighbors...invite some over for coffee and cake. Have a small party for the kids in your subdivisions so your kids can get to know other kids...or one family of kids over at a time. Make it simple: rent movies and have popcorn....These small parties don't have to cost a lot...

How large of a community to you live in?

I live in a small community of 15,000 and there are programs going on. Get your local paper. Sometimes a local hospital offers classes that cater to Moms...Look at info boards at the grocery store and dr.'s clinics....Go to your local library as well.

Do a search on your computer for info on developing social skills...I just did a lookup, there are many sites out there.

Loris gave you some great info as well...about getting involved in school activities.

Hope a few of these tips will help you!!!

Codeblue

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Have any of you experienced this ?

by codeblue in

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as a married jw, did your spouse ever cheat on you with another jw?

codeblue

So sorry all you readers here. I am NOT a violent person...I had been a very trusting, naieve JW wife.....let this be a lesson to all trusting JW wives...if you have doubts...they are probably true...If you don't...please start reading the signs and don't be so trusting with your husbands....

Codeblue

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Have any of you experienced this ?

by codeblue in

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as a married jw, did your spouse ever cheat on you with another jw?

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Dear Frantic:

I too thought being in the "truth (tm) was that of having a healthy,secure marriage. I was raised a JW and dutifully married one when I was 21....imagine my fears when husband #1 was unfaithful before the 1st anniversary....and before my 10th was unfaithful with another JW....Jerry Springer would have a field day with this topic...ONly God knows who all husband #1, a JW, was unfaithful with. The whole 19 years of my marriage....Now think of me...a very faithful wife ...not in the know...freaking out thinking I have AIDS...upon my final learning of unfaithfullness...geez...those kind of husbands need to be SHOT.

Codeblue

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Social Skills 101 for Newbies

by codeblue in

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pettygrudger and i jokingly chatted about writing a book about this subject...maybe just a "thread" could be of help to newbies that are having problems in learning how to associate beyond jw's.. any suggestions for this new topic?.

codeblue

Hey Stillawjexelder: Thanks for sharing Chapter #24, and have you really read all those books? I have read COC and ISOCF are the others really worth the read???? fill me in please...

Megadude: Great Chapter#25: could you expound on that just a little more...lol

Chapter 26: Lord of the Rings---A must see---all three, a spiritual experience defined by YOU.

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