Phaedra

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  Creepy things jw's have said to you

  by purrpurr in

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  here's mine: i'm 14 years old, just baptised and a old boy married elder of about 60 odd comes up to me and says " ooooooooooh!

  "purrpurr"!

  your getting such a lovely figure on you!

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  Phaedra

  Really the whole mindset of JWs is twisted. Spent lots of time in car groups where it seemed the only way to cope with the ongoing rejection was to visualize the just desserts of householders at Armageddon. Taking their nice houses after the fact seemed passive aggressive, and when you believe you're supposed to be the happiest people in the world, the behavior makes sense.

  Not creepy, but the elder who made a point of telling us about the pagan roots of knotted pretzels... and to be sure we broke them before eating them (=bad if we didn't). Bet he didn't touch a fortune cookie with a ten-foot pole.

  I still can't look at pretzels like a normal person.
  
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  Are we participants in this forum because of bouts of "loneliness"?

  by Wonderment in

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  i wonder how many of us here hold on to this meeting place out of "loneliness.

  could it be that we harbor feelings of "abandonment" and "loneliness" from being left cold and dry by the wt people and our families?

  perhaps we do have a need to reach out to people with similar experiences.

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  It's connection... of so many kinds.

  For those with family in, it's a unique connection to keep some sanity.
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  JW's correlation to franchise business

  by jeremiah18:5-10 in

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  i operate a 31 restaurant franchise.

  it is no small task.

  the franchise is a well known american company and a rapidly growing one.

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  Guess not, then.
  
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  JW's correlation to franchise business

  by jeremiah18:5-10 in

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  i operate a 31 restaurant franchise.

  it is no small task.

  the franchise is a well known american company and a rapidly growing one.

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  Phaedra

  Hi Jeremiah,

  Are you hiring? I'm about to be unemployed in IL.
  
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  So How'd you like your Last Resting Place?

  by snugglebunny in

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  like this perhaps?

  it is pretty cool after all... .

  (i took both of these pics and the difference was, well, obvious!).

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  invisible. nobody cares.
  
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  JAMES WOODS is in the hospital (heart related)

  by Terry in

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  james woods has been a long time regular on this discussion group in all of its incarnations.. he had some kind of "heart-attack" and has been in dallas' emergency ward for several days.

  he also has a blood clot doctors are working to break up.. 972-261-4412 is his cell number.. he was in a talking mood yesterday afternoon.. i bet it wouldn't kill him to get some well-wishes.. james goes back a long way as an ex-jw.

  he knows where the bodies are buried :).

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  James, feel better.
  
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  Does it ever just hit you...It all may be a dream

  by LevelThePlayingField in

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  that the paradise may or may not be real?

  that the things you have been taught for many years from the jehovah's witnesses may not really be as they say?

  has it really ever really hit you with that "pow" of reality ever?

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  My JW reality never questioned the paradise. As a raised-in, I always believed what I was being taught was real, and I might never die or grow old in this system of things. When I found myself outside the box, I was not only embarrassed at the naivety of belief, but have experienced depression and embarrassment ever since.
  
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  WOL Alumni? (Big Ray's Witnesses Online)

  by Phaedra in

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  years ago i was a member of big ray's witnesses online discussion board, when i was a questioning jw, which seemed to have come at a time when many were leaving of obed fernandez's witnessesonline, which went off air.

  i'm wondering if anyone who use to post there is here and out?.

  obed posted a link to this site (simon's) when it closed, which helped facilitate my next step out of the jw organization.. no matter, my hats off to both obed and big ray for the space they each created for the processing i needed as a jw.

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  Years ago I was a member of Big Ray's Witnesses Online discussion board, when I was a questioning JW, which seemed to have come at a time when many were leaving of Obed Fernandez's witnessesonline, which went off air. I'm wondering if anyone who use to post there is here and out?

  Obed posted a link to this site (Simon's) when it closed, which helped facilitate my next step out of the JW organization.

  No matter, my hats off to both Obed and Big Ray for the space they each created for the processing I needed as a JW. I made a few friends on WN and WOL and wonder if they ever saw TTATT.
  
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  International Cultic Association "Free books"

  by OrphanCrow in

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  a post recently made on the exjw reddit forum made reference to the international cultic association.. if you go to their webpage, http://www.icsahome.com/, and click on the "email signup", it will take you to a page where you fill out a short survey.. after you submit the survey, you are able to access free e-book downloads.. these books and resources are excellent for anyone interested in researching the psychological aspects of the tactics of high control groups and the resulting trauma that people experience from exposure to these groups.. i downloaded the following and have started reading the margaret singer collection.

  bardin, livia - coping with cult involvement- a handbook for families and friends.

  ford, wendy - recovery from abusive groups - healing from the trauma of authoritarian leaders.

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  Phaedra

  Thanks for sharing this!
  
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  How many of us are 'perfectionists'?

  by FayeDunaway in

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  i made a medium level mistake at work today, and when i make mistakes it really shakes me up and takes me a long time to recover.

  it completely rattles me, makes me feel awful about myself.

  my mind keeps going back to the mistake reliving how i could have let it happen.

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  Phaedra

  This topic hits so close...
  We were told that perfection is possible.

  And we were told that we can strive to make over our personalities in this system.

  So many of us equated that with that we can be close to perfect if we just.... try a little harder.

  Problem is a little harder never lets up. Then we become neurotic.

  Ripe for the picking.