Leolaia,
So you apparently find humour in seeing obnoxious, delusional people expose themselves to the REAL world? Gotcha!! I can understand your choices then.
Brad
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The poster who you find the FUNNIEST here, and why?
by outbutnotdown inof course, different people enjoy different types of humour, so there will be a wide variety of responses, but if you could mention why you find that person funny, personally, it would be appreciated.. i would have to say that i have to pick two people.
i enjoy having humour displayed in a tasteful manner, but with wit.
a life-lesson taught with a laugh is about as good as it gets, imo, even if i am not capable of accomplishing that very well myself.
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The poster who you find the FUNNIEST here, and why?
by outbutnotdown inof course, different people enjoy different types of humour, so there will be a wide variety of responses, but if you could mention why you find that person funny, personally, it would be appreciated.. i would have to say that i have to pick two people.
i enjoy having humour displayed in a tasteful manner, but with wit.
a life-lesson taught with a laugh is about as good as it gets, imo, even if i am not capable of accomplishing that very well myself.
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Of course, different people enjoy different types of humour, so there will be a wide variety of responses, but if you could mention WHY you find that person funny, personally, it would be appreciated.
I would have to say that I have to pick two people. It's a dead-heat for me. I enjoy having humour displayed in a tasteful manner, but with wit. A life-lesson taught with a laugh is about as good as it gets, IMO, even if I am not capable of accomplishing that very well myself.
Based on my taste in humour, I have to say that (in no particular order.. ).............................
Elsewhere and Gumby are my picks.
Brad
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Do you still Patronize Women?
by limbo ini was thinking today about how jehovah's witnesses are conditioned to view women.
i'm sure there have been many threads and discussions on this subject.
just curious how you view women now that you are no longer a jw?
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BALANCE!!
As others have said, that should answer the question, but I'm gonna spout off a few words besides that anyway.
My dad was the typical "Head of the Household" type of guy. I didn't think it was fair. I swore I wasn't gonna be like him. I wasn't. I went too far the other way, in order to try to compensate (I think anyway).
I married a woman who was abusive and controlling, from a distance. I was so worried about being the better husband, that I never really saw it. DOH!!
But, hey, like many have said, it's all balance!! I saw one extreme, then the other. The balance has created an almost perfect human being. And I'm single. LOL
But seriously, like others have said, the man and woman would be best to do away with stereotypes and look at each other as being EQUAL.
Brad
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The "BRAG AS MUCH AS YOU WANT ABOUT YOUR KIDS" thread
by outbutnotdown inon my "backyard rink" thread some of us were bragging about our kids.
confusedjw and scootergirl shared their kids' hockey and skating successes.. i thought it would be cool to have a thread where parents (and other relatives) could post their kids' achievements as they come along.. births, first steps, first words, sports/academic achievements, etc.
i'll start:.
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This is not to mention an award or a specific achievement, but rather more of a recognition of how resiliant, positive and generally beautiful children are.
I had to meet with the Children's Aid Society today due to further allegations, (from my ex-wife), of my incompetence as a father. My children have supposedly FREELY and WILLINGLY told her regarding my house/my care that I : 1) never feed them and they go for a whole weekend without eating sometimes, 2) I always ask them to get beer for me, I give them beer all the time, 3) I am always at the computer (I admit I am here quite often when they are NOT with me) and that I never do anything with them when they are here, 4) HERE'S THE SHOCKER - I have pictures of my daughters NAKED in the bathtub (along with a hundred clothed, not mentioned... they are 6,4) and my ex feels that this may be an indication that I am a sexual deviant.
The sh*t she puts into their minds is f*cking sickening!!!!
Having gotten that off my chest.... .... here's the beautiful part about kids: Despite the fact that they all give me a bit of a hard time about coming before each visit (not surprising, considering the poison she feeds them when they are with her), within minutes they are more free than they ever were when my ex and I were together. My youngest dances up a storm, losing all inhibitions that restrict her when she is with my ex. My second youngest acts out songs, books etc. and my second oldest loves to draw, read and express himself more by genuine excitement for what he is doing at the time.
Here's to strength of character that all humans have the ability to express if given the chance. Here's to all the parents who recognize and live by the fact that positive influence towards their children creates a completely free human, ready to love themselves and others.
And, quite frankly, may the people who don't recognize that, learn it soon.
Brad
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Vigil for my daughter, please.
by outnfree inas mentioned in my other thread, my daughter lena is having brainsurgery on monday, jan 24. the surgery will last 6-7 hours, so i'm hoping the board members will be willing to make a special effort tomorrow to send positive thoughts, healing energy, good wishes and prayers her way.
we are asking that the surgeon's hands be delicate and skillful and that lena does not bleed overmuch and that brain damage be minimal (if not non-existant).
surgery begins at 8 am eastern standard time (us), but we have to have her to the hospital by 6 am, so this is "good night!
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outnfree,
Great to hear the wonderful news!!
Brad
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You mean you don't just sit around and help us with our problems?
Congrats, Valis.
Brad
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Judge fines mother $10,000 for 'alienation'...
by orbison11 inthis is a bit of a long post, but couldn't copy addy, .
it is good for the canadian parents here who are fighting to see their children and they are having their children's minds poisoned by the custodial parent.... a good case in canada.
you are the custodial parent.
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LittleToe,
Damn women, eh?!?!
Sorry to hear about your predicament. In a way I guess it is good that you never had any children, if she was that way.
As for me, if I never had children in that relationship, it would have been a TOTAL waste. Besides, they're pretty damn cute kids. They were with me tonight.
I try not to think too much about it, coz I feel like a mug!
Don't be too hard on yourself. While I'm sure you were not blameless in the relationship/breakup, some people are certainly bigger pricks/bitches than others. It doesn't always take two.... at least not two people of equal character.
Brad
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might go back to the meetings - what am I getting myself into?
by jwbot inwell my sister and her husband are now working towards figuring out the custody issues and divorce.
both being very civil about it.
my sister will most likely be disfellowshipped as she is with another man (a very nice british guy, actually).. .
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jwbot,
What your sister is doing makes a little more sense when you explain her being abused in the past. It is good for you to support her. I just hope your support will include telling her the things that she might not WANT to hear, but will do her good.
I hope she does go through with getting the counselling she needs. I thought sixofnine's comment was appropriate:
But this *explosion* to freedom, will give her room to grow, if she will take the opportunity.
I'm not sure that she needs the "explosion", but since she seems set on taking that route, it wiil certainly allow her to see both sides of being with her hubby and being away from her hubby.
I feel for him the most. Hopefully he can be assured that it is not so much anything "wrong" with him as it is that your sister needs to find her way.
Brad
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Are you my Daddy?
by outbutnotdown inhere's my situation: .
i have four children (10,7,6,4).
my wife (now ex-wife) and i were not getting along very well five years ago.
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PointBlank,
I think that was the one that Elsewhere posted earlier as well. I didn't know that a paternity test was that easy. It's good to know, since ensuring that my ex not know is a VERY important factor for me, because of the concerns I posted. Thanks, Else and PB.
May also very likely segregate her from her siblings. I've seen this and it's very, very sad - especially in pre-teen years.
Aude_Sapere,
I have considered this as well. If she is NOT my child, I will still raise her as my own. I will however ask the Judge to prevent my ex from saying anything to her (until it is necessary), to hopefully prevent this segregation.
The one reason why I want to know is that my ex has done enough crazy things, that if I don't "adopt" her as my own, that she may try to take her from me and her siblings, without consideration for her stability.
BUT ALWAYS PUT THIS CHILDS WELL BEING UP FRONT.
Outoftheorg,
I agree wholeheartedly. It is good that your "not finding out" worked out well for you and your family. The one difference that may warrant me doing things differently than you is that my ex does not have the "walk out on us" mentality. She has the "take all the kids that she can and run away so that they never get to see their father again mentality". I have won a few battles already to prevent this from happening. This is just another one that I am trying to prevent this worse-case scenario.
I compared my blood type to my parents to make sure it matched up. Your child could make a shocking discovery on his/her own.
Elsewhere,
See? That's one thing I hadn't thought of yet. Thanks!! IMO, it is ALWAYS better for the parents to tactfully reveal something big like that to their children, rather than leaving that to chance.
If you consider being a parent only a biological reality, go for the DNA test. If you are above that limitation, love her without conditions. That is real parentage.
Carmel,
Thanks for your assessment, but if you read the whole thread, you will see why it is not that cut-and-dried. I am above the "limitation" you speak of, I do and will "love her without conditions", but it is possible to do that and also realize that there are bigger reasons that a DNA test is still beneficial.
Thanks for all of your input so far. If you think of anything else, keep the suggestions coming.
Brad
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might go back to the meetings - what am I getting myself into?
by jwbot inwell my sister and her husband are now working towards figuring out the custody issues and divorce.
both being very civil about it.
my sister will most likely be disfellowshipped as she is with another man (a very nice british guy, actually).. .
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Jez,
You and I are thinking very similar things, it seems. I don't think jwbot's sister is right either. It is SO much of a parallel to my ex. She had a few friends who supported her in EVERYTHING, even affairs.
Sometimes, as a friend or relative you just gotta stand up to the person, slap them upside the head (symbolically) and tell them to smarten the hell up. ..... or tell them to get help.
I hope jwbot doesn't take this personally because it shouldn't be but her sister just IS NOT being fair to her husband.
Brad