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  Halloween / Birthday celebration

  by River Song in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  new to the board, first time posting a topic.

  i just wanted to say how refreshing and sometimes funny it has been lurking here.

  so much so that i decided to sign up to this message board.

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  OneEyedJoe

  Welcome! I always enjoy a good doctor who reference.

  When you go trick or treating with your kids, do you ever have flash flashbacks? I guess the whole experience is pretty positive so hopefully not.

  Have a great day you pagan, you.
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  Disfellowshipped at a funeral

  by Yogapants in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  recently at a funeral for an active jw, death was sudden and tragic.

  was surprised that that one of the disfellowshipped children of the deceased was comforted by the jw's at the funeral.

  i would say the majority hugged and said a few short words to the disfellowshipped child on the recieving line to comfort the family.

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  OneEyedJoe

  I think usually funerals are seen as an opportunity to love bomb someone back into the cult. They might use different phrasing, of course, but I think many make an exception on the shunning in order to try to manipulate people to return. I've seen it a number of times.

  Of course, if the love bombing doesn't yield immediate results, they're cut off again just as quickly.

  It's absolutely disgusting the way this cult uses death/funerals almost solely as a means of recruitment, it's rarely about the deceased at all.
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  New Watchtower Propaganda and hate speech destroying families (Feb 2016 WT)

  by Daniel1555 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  the following is a paragraph from the new february study watchtower article "learn from jehovah's loyal servants.".

  7 a conflict of loyalties may arise when a close relative is disfellowshipped.

  for example, a sister named anne [1] received a telephone call from her disfellowshipped mother.

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  OneEyedJoe

  I just realized (a little slow today) that Ann / Andre

  are very similar names.

  Might we expect to see more of her...?

  I can hear the conversation in the writer's room now:

  JW1: Hey, did you look over that WT article I wrote? Do you have any suggestions?

  JW2: Yeah, you know where you talk about "Andre" *snickers* who wrote the letter to his shunned father? I think it might be a better idea to make them both women. You know those women seem to have a much harder time dealing with this, being the weaker, more emotional, vessel.

  JW1: Great idea! But I've already got the layout all lined up....hmmm...I know! I'll just change "dr" to "n" in the name!
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  Curiosity killed the cat.

  by James Mixon in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  don't you think with all the talk about apostate sites, this is having a reverse.

  effect for the rf.

  if i was a jw today i would wonder what are all the lies these people are saying.. and i would try defending their truth on these sites, but in each case those that come here.

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  OneEyedJoe

  In a way, the negativity towards apostates helped me to wake up. For a time the indoctrination had me questioning my own motives for doubting, but as things remained unresolved I eventually started to wonder if it were possible that not all apostates were simply looking for their own followers or just couldn't live up to god's standards and left, bitter. When I realized that I had never once actually heard of an example of someone leaving and trying to "draw off followers after themselves" I realized that they might not all fit so neatly into little boxes. Since there's no way to explore doubts in the cult without retribution (unless you're willing to accept the all too common excuses that don't stand up to even passing scrutiny, which I no longer was) I set out in search of information online. Since everything online is apostate (well, I wasn't about to jump through the ridiculous hoops to register on jwtalk) here I am.

  Obviously there's always a lot more in play than just one factor, but I think the constant reinforcement that there are people who have left and disagree with the WT will make some wonder if maybe they'd fit in better with that group. The apostaphobia might be effective on those who are fully in and have no doubts or problems with the cult, but I think it can serve to push out those who are only hanging on by a thread.
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  Taking bets on how long this cult will last and what will happen to it

  by macys in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i wanna make a poll here.

  how many years do you think the jdub cult will exist as is and what will happen to it?.

  i say the growth stops this year and starts to decline.

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  OneEyedJoe

  The Borg has survived two world wars, and the great depression,
  

  The cult has proven that it can flourish in difficult times (as do most religions) but as the world becomes more prosperous, I think they're going to have more trouble.
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  Recent study links processed meats to cancer

  by duc007az in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so a recent study says processed meats are just as dangerous as cigarettes when it comes to cancer.

  the wtbs has had a long time stance that smoking is a df offense.

  my question is if there's proof beyond doubt, why doesn't the wtbs make eating processed meats a df offense?.

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  OneEyedJoe

  No link so I don't know what to make of this exactly. When evaluating risk, though, you have to be careful. I think there was a study a while ago that stated that if a man eats a bacon sandwich every day for lunch it increases the risk of prostate cancer by 20%, which sounds pretty big. But since only ~5% of men have prostate cancer, the risk only goes from 5% to 6%. Not a significant change. Especially if you're in your 40s or older - the question you should be asking is not "what are the odds this will kill me" but instead "how many years does this effectively cut off my life." If smoking will take 20 years to kill you and you're 60, then the answer is that it's probably not going to have a significant impact on lifespan. Same goes for eating bacon.

  It's somewhat funny that most people live their lives in reverse when it comes to evaluating risk - they take risks in their youth, when they have more life to lose, and become more risk-adverse in old age when it doesn't matter as much. We should all drive slow and eat healthy until our 40s, then start drinking, smoking and eating everything in sight.

  Anyways, that was a bit of a tangent. As far as I'm concerned, if bacon is as bad for me as smoking then I guess I might as well start smoking because I'm never giving up bacon. Yep, that logic checks out.
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  Taking bets on how long this cult will last and what will happen to it

  by macys in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i wanna make a poll here.

  how many years do you think the jdub cult will exist as is and what will happen to it?.

  i say the growth stops this year and starts to decline.

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  OneEyedJoe

  I guess it depends on how you measure it. If you're measuring it the way the GB probably is - in dollars and cents - they've probably already peaked. Areas in Europe (UK and Germany) are already showing decline, as is Japan and I suspect Australia has seen their peak. Areas where people have money are not growing. The US has probably peaked too, but they're putting extra effort (the US is now the US branch territory and includes other areas that have some growth yet) into fudging the numbers and picking up immigrants to hide the decline since the US is their crown jewel. They may grow in the 3rd world for some time, but they won't have the economic support that they once had.

  I expect them to stop reporting the full stats in the next few years to a decade as they run out of ways to hide the decline without waking up more bethelites with overly dishonest tactics. Honestly, though, I suspect that most of the attrition of the next 10-20 years will be the older generation dying off. The average member's age is way too high for a healthy business, and they'll be forced to reorganize into a leaner cult. The thing that I think will be most interesting to see is if, as the older ones die off, we see an exodus of the next generation as they discover their reason for staying in (often the approval of their parents, it seems) evaporates.
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  Your thoughts on Halloween , yes, no or maybe ?

  by Finkelstein in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  well its that time again when the ghouls come out to play.

  i personally think halloween is a bit irresponsible and inappropriate from a sociological perspective.. there's something about the intent of frightening young impressionable children minds with frightening objests.

  and feeding them candy which most likely cause tooth decay and stomachs is irresponsible activity conducted by adults.

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  OneEyedJoe

  I'm ok with the dress-up stuff and the candy, but I really hate people knocking on my door uninvited.
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  Need advice

  by Darkknight757 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi.i've been pouring over this site for the past few days looking for some advice and i hope there is someone here that can help a guy out.

  i'm desperate.....short bio: i came into the organization after high school and shortly after married a wonderful girl who was born-in.we have been happily married now for nearly 20 years and things were well until 2015 hit.

  by the way, i currently serve as an elder and have the ""privilege"" of being the "watchtower overseer".. either here nor there, we were told we would never have children but late last year my wife became prego!!

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  OneEyedJoe

  First off - I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain you two have been through.

  I think you are, however, in the perfect position to step down without raising an eyebrow. You and your wife likely have a lot on your minds and I don't think you'll get much resistance if you step down as an elder in order to have more time to cope and tend to your wife's and your own emotional well being. I suspect that'll be relatively easy.

  Next step is the tough one. Telling your wife that you no longer believe is a difficult conversation that no one wants to have and its impossible for any of us here to tell you the right way to go about it. You know your wife better than anyone, so I would just advise you to read what you get here and evaluate how you see it fitting with your wife's personality and her connection to the cult.

  Many have had success with slowly planting seeds with their spouse resulting in an eventual awakening. Some have just come out in one fell swoop, and that sometimes leads to the spouse waking up and sometimes it leads to separation/divorce. In my case, I tried planting seeds for about a year before I had a big blow-up with the wife and came out about my non-belief. While I doubt that she would have woken up either way, I think it would've gone far better had I been up-front with her about everything from the beginning.

  Whatever happens, know you're not alone in any of this. I wish you the best of luck in everything you're dealing with.
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  Grandparents take disfellowshipped daughter to court to insist on right to preach to four year old

  by usualusername1 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/jehovah-s-witness-grandparents-ordered-to-keep-faith-to-themselves-1.3282193 .

  a pair of devout jehovah's witnesses have been ordered by a b.c.

  provincial court judge not to talk about religion in front of their four-year-old granddaughter.. the couple lost their bid for unsupervised access to the girl because they insisted on taking her to worship at their faith's kingdom hall despite the repeated objections of the child's mother.. the girl is identified only as a.w.

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  OneEyedJoe

  Where are you getting the idea that the mother was a "disfellowshipped Witness"??

  Not sure where I got that...thanks for clearing it up. I think it was the frequent use of initials that made it a little trickier to work out who was who, but I was too lazy to be bothered with trying to work all that out. I don't think it ever said she wasn't an exJW, so I kinda came at it with that assumption in my head. Given the many posts you see on here about exJWs trying to keep their parents from pushing the cult on their kids, it makes sense that many would see it from that context since it's not explicit that she wasn't an exJW.

  I really never understood this entitled feeling most JWs seem to have about pushing their beliefs on other people. I think, though, that I always recognized that some people had just as valid reasons for their beliefs as I did mine and didn't want to be a hypocrite and push my religion on them if they didn't want it. That made me hate the d2d recruiting. It seems like so many of them fully buy into the indoctrination that their lives depend on recruiting as many people as possible and that it's the most loving thing they can do. If you really believe that what you're doing is the equivalent of lending a hand to someone who's hanging from a cliff, you'll easily brush aside normal societal boundaries.