I'm in the same situation as you except we r both active not discouraged at all. I already let her know I have issues with the blood and shunning issues. That didn't go over well. The next time I'm gonna go with this approach.
"Babe, your my best friend. This is really bothering me. There is no one else that I can talk to about this. Will you please discuss this with me ... Yadda yadda yadda..."
this will all be done with a very hurt depressed spirit on my part.