DisArmed

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  Hello, just introducing myself

  by Miss Behaving in

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  i've just signed up two days ago, but i've been lurking for about a year and a half.

  here's my story if you're interested:.

  my parents converted when they were in their first semester of college.

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  DisArmed

  "But what I'm discovering is that the world I had been taught to hate can be incredibly kind. I'm learning the extent of my ignorance." - Miss Behaving

  An essential step for my own exit.

  Welcome Miss!

  
  
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  Thoughts on My Exit

  by losingit in

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  it has been some time since i last posted or even visited the site, and i wondered why that was.

  life continued to be difficult without a network of friends to look forward to seeing.

  the novelty of being disfellowshipped wore off, and the mundane advanced as it did every day.

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  losingit,

  Your writing about your pregnancy was beautiful. Hopefully these divorce proceedings won't last too long and you won't have to revisit Wally World for any length of time. Great job getting your master's degree. Good luck and keep forging ahead! Please keep us posted.
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  New to all of this

  by Ghiagirl in

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  i was raised in the truth my whole life, my immediate family are jws and my moms mom is a witness as well as my fathers mom.

  other than that the rest of my family are non jws.

  i was raised very balanced, my parents never forced the truth on me or my siblings like most of my friends parents did getting baptized at ridiculous ages!

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  Ghiagirl,

  Great read, I enjoyed reading your experience. Welcome to the forum. Don't you feel better after writing that? I recommend every ex-dub do that even if they don't post it in a forum.
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  Help! I'm drowning!

  by vinman in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my wife and sons don't know how far i have gone in withdrawing from the organization in my heart.

  i've been faking family worship.

  i got angry and almost showed it while watching the march tv.org.

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  Vinman,

  Welcome. No way around it, you have some decisions to make. From my own experience the choices are not as ominous as they first appear. Take your time. You'll find there are many good people outside of Wally World, people that will become genuine friends not conditional regarding your personal beliefs. Others will notice as you begin to thrive. Don't be surprised if they follow your example.
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  For all still in.... fakers. Help.

  by Sofia Lose in

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  am i alone in this feeling?

  i wish i could muster the cojones needed to tell my husband "i want a divorce, move away, not be a jw anymore!".

  i find myself screaming these same words over and loud inside my mind, several times a day, and yet on the outside my actions could not be more opposed to these inner feelings.. sometimes i worry that this internal conflict will cause me to go crazy.

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  Sofia,

  Don't let the the craziness of Wally World dictate how you live your life. I understand wanting to support your husband but supporting him because he will lose his "privies" in a cult will only bring you misery and that kind of support always collapses.
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  I Haven't Missed a Meeting in Years!

  by Oubliette in

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  2. experiences

  i recently ran into a jw i knew from a few years back.you know how it goes, a few pleasantries that always seem much more awkward than they really should (not for me, mind you--for him).and then the question, "so what congregation are you attending?

  are you able to make the meetings?

  "i'm thinking: do you always start conversations this way?so anyways, knowing full well the jw-mindset, i decided to have a bit of fun.furrowing my brow, i said, "that's an odd question!

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  DisArmed

  That was great! Good for a chuckle, I'll have to use that time.
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  Devouring the Forbidden Fruit - Higher Education

  by cappytan in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well, i told my wife over the weekend i was going to go back school to finish my degree.

  she is 100% supportive of it!

  apparently she doesn't think higher education is so evil either.. since my former major was computer programming and that was in the late 1990's, i was told i'd have to retake a bunch of classes since times have changed.

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  Congrats Cappytan,

  Sounds like a good plan. Keep us posted.
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  Just woke up

  by Doctor Who in

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  new to the site.

  currently i am a ministerial servant and was told i was appointed to be an elder.

  i told the brothers i was not ready for that assignment.

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  Welcome Doctor Who!

  The ride gets smoother as time goes by. Then the real ride begins, life! Hang on, you'll love it!
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  How to get my kids out

  by SaneAgain in

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  i've been disfellowshipped for about 5 years and extremely happy to be out.

  my ex wife is still a regular meeting attender and takes our two young kids with her (8 and 6 years old).

  i recently saw some of the caleb and sophia videos on the jw.org website and was completely appalled, i remember what i was taught as a kid growing up in the organization but this seems so much worse and now that i'm out i can plainly see the mind control.

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  SaneAgain,

  Welcome. Different approaches work for different parents. My two children were considerably older than yours when I left Wally World but this is what worked for me. I did not try to persuade them as I knew their mother and other JWs would paint me as Satan trying to mislead them. I also knew that no decision is more meaningful than one that comes from ones own conclusions. So I was patient. As I was leaving the organization and after I was completely out I always answered any questions they might have but tried not to talk them into anything. It took some time but as they saw my life blossom and improve considerably, education, career, travel, relationships, overall disposition, etc., they began to see the light. There were some tough times and struggles but I am happy to say they are both out and thriving. The decision they made to come out is their own and it is solid. I could not have a more wonderful relationship with both of them. We are all happy to be out!
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  American Sniper - courage or cowardice?

  by Simon in

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  2. entertainment

  the movie american sniper is breaking box office records and of course there is some irony that a movie about a sniper is released on martin luther king day (who was shot by one).. but of course there is a world of difference between an assassin and a military sniper ... or is there?.

  some are making a big stink about it and claiming that "snipers are cowards".

  it seems unfair to me.

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  DisArmed

  I saw the movie a week ago. As movies go I would rate it pretty good. It did keep my interest and evoked some thoughts and emotions. 

  As far as an opinion regarding courage or cowardice,  it seems to me anyone that serves and has to shoot or be shot has to have some measure of courage. There are those that meet the enemy face to face, thank "God" for them. And those behind front lines, thank "God" for them. What I gathered from the movie, reading, and discussions with informed friends, it takes a special set of skills to be a sniper. Not only do you have to have the marksmanship skills, you have to be decisive and have already made up your mind that you will kill a person in certain scenarios regardless of sex or age. It has been reported that Kyle killed more than 160 people. I would rather know how many lives he saved by using his skills.