Yes we spank. We do the reasoning with first. He is 4 and really not grasping stuff that I think he should..... I know hes only 4. We do expect a lot out of him because I know he is smart. Attending pre school this year but already knows how to read. He knows the rules but when he breaks them too often, he gets hand on butt reminders.
There is a difference of spanking and beating your child. When I think of beating, I think of being really angry and no self control. With spanking on the other hand, I feel with us at least it is done in a controlled way, out of love. After the reasoning with didn't work in this particular issue/offence.