You're right Lisa, stop the rot! What your parents couldn't or wouldn't do can stop with you. Not perpetuating the situation on to the next generation is the key.
May Dad had major problems showing anything affectionate to anyone. My mum was a proper old stiff up a lip type so not much going on there ether.
When it came to my family I made sure I didn't pass it on to them. Took real effort but all well worth it.
It's the one thing I'm truly proud of doing because it took the greatest effort & yielded the best rewards.
Phats.